For National Coming Out Day today I share the following excerpt from the book Tender Fires: The Spiritual Promise of Sexuality by Fran Ferder and John Heagle. I believe the message of this particular excerpt is appropriate for today as the coming out journey helps transform us into "sacraments of the sacred, icons of the divine." In so doing, this wondrous journey also positions us, or perhaps better yet, opens us to lovingly, authentically and healthily respond to God's "primal beatitude," which, according to Ferder and Heagle, is the longing for love and the ache for relationships.
I've come to believe that it is only when we "come out," i.e., lovingly accept ourselves in the totality of our being, a totality that includes our sexual orientation, that we can seek, build and sustain that special type of relationship which so many people – gay and straight – have experienced as the fulfillment of God's "most lasting blessing" in their lives.
God has created each of us to be sacraments of the sacred, icons of the divine. And the central mystery of God – the heart of the holy – is communion.
This thirst for love and this longing for connection is woven into the very fabric of our “inmost self.” . . . We are created for communion. We are made to belong. . . . Loneliness is an integral dimension of the human condition, a quiet reminder that we are creatures – limited, mortal, unfinished, and radically interdependent.
It would be sad if we awoke one morning and came to our kitchen only to discover that there was no food. But it would be far more tragic if we awoke one morning and discovered that we were no longer hungry. The longing for love, the ache for relationships is God’s primal beatitude, the first and most lasting blessing of our lives.
– Fran Ferder and John Heagle
See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
• Quote of the Day – October 8, 2012
• Coming Out: An Act of Holiness
• The Raising of Lazarus and the Gay Experience of Coming Out
• Darren Hayes, Coming Out . . . Oh, and Time Travel
• Ian McKellen’s Two Greatest Achievements: Playing Gandalf and Coming Out
• A Girl Named Sara: A “Person of the Resurrection”
• No Matter What
• Quote of the Day – July 16, 2010
• Coming Out in Africa and the Middle East
• A Gay Catholic Man's Testimony of Courage and Grace: "God Made Me and Loves Me Just As I Am"
• The Many Manifestations of God's Loving Embrace
• Getting It Right
• Photo of the Day – March 7, 2012
And for my own coming out story, see The Wild Reed series, In the Footsteps of Spring:
• Part 1: The Light Within
• Part 2: Shards of Summer
• Part 3: Intimate Soliloquies
• Part 4: Coming Out
• Part 5: No Stranger Am I
Related Off-site Links:
Sorry, NOM, But Same-Sex Marriage Has Actual Benefits – Jim David (HuffPost Gay Voices, October 17, 2012),
Is It a Coincidence that Coming Out Day and Vatican II’s Anniversary Are Today? – Francis DeBernardo (Bondings 2.0, October 11, 2012).