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Thursday, September 24, 2015

Remembering John McNeill



John McNeill was the spiritual director to an entire generation of queer Catholics. He was a prophet, a pioneer, an activist, a scholar, a friend and a spouse. . . . He was a proud gay man.



I was saddened to hear last night of the death of John McNeill, a scholar and activist who, in his tireless proclamation of God's unconditional love for LBGT people, inspired and empowered countless lives. He was without doubt a prophet of his time, one who challenged the Roman Catholic hierarchy and cultural homophobia through his steadfast affirmation and celebration of the goodness of the human body, relationships and sexuality.

Following is a statement released by DignityUSA about the life and legacy of John McNeill.

DignityUSA mourns the passing of John J. McNeill, a seminal figure in the history of the 46-year-old organization of LGBT Catholics and allies, as well as the broader LGBT civil rights movement. McNeill died on the evening of September 22 at the age of 90 in hospice care in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, in the presence of his devoted spouse and partner of 49 years, Charles Chiarelli.

A former Jesuit priest with a doctorate in philosophy from Louvain University in Belgium, McNeill helped inspire the founding of Dignity with articles in theological journals in the 1960s that for the first time challenged Catholic Church teaching on homosexuality from an authoritative theological and scholarly perspective. In 1972, he convened the meeting that led to the founding of Dignity’s New York City chapter. His groundbreaking, bestselling 1976 book, The Church and the Homosexual, was an international sensation that landed McNeill on the Today show and sparked widespread debate. Subsequent books, including Taking a Chance on God and Freedom, Glorious Freedom, extended McNeill’s discussion more deeply into the pastoral and personal realms of LGBT Catholic and Christian experience.

In 1987, McNeill was expelled from the Jesuits after nearly four decades for refusing to be silenced by the Vatican on LGBT issues. The same year, he was Grand Marshal of New York City’s LGBT Pride March. Until recent years, he pursued a multi-faceted vocation as a psychotherapist, spiritual director, retreat leader, and author, with a constant focus on the needs of the LGBT community. In addition, along with Fr. Mychal Judge, he founded The Upper Room AIDS Ministry, an outreach for homeless persons with AIDS in Harlem. Through these activities, he offered hope and healing — at times literally life-saving — to countless people around the globe.

Born and raised in Buffalo, McNeill entered the U.S. Army in 1942 and became a prisoner of war in Nazi Germany — an experience that for him was profoundly spiritual and led him to enter the Jesuits in 1948. Ordained in 1959, he taught philosophy and theology at Fordham University, Union Theological Seminary, and Le Moyne College, where he was a noted peace advocate during the Vietnam War.

A powerful presence at nearly every Dignity convention and in many Dignity communities until recent years, McNeill was presented with DignityUSA’s Lifetime Achievement Award in 1997. In 2011, he traveled to Rome, where, along with European LGBT leaders, he delivered a letter to then-Pope Benedict XVI at the Vatican. The letter asked for dialogue and urged Church leadership to speak out against the violence, injustice, and discrimination experienced by LGBT people around the world. In 2012, McNeill was the subject of Taking a Chance on God, a documentary film produced and directed by Dignity member Brendan Fay that highlights his role as priest, gay man, activist, author, spouse, and pioneer of the international LGBT civil rights movement.



DignityUSA also shares the following compilation of testimonials.


John was really the first major prophet of the Catholic LGBT movement. Every DignityUSA president has consulted him for insights into the emerging issues of the Catholic LGBT community. His groundbreaking bravery in daring to question official Church doctrine was truly liberating to so many people. The Church and the Homosexual was really the ‘coming-out’ Bible for LGBT Catholics. And Freedom, Glorious Freedom was incredibly important in helping to shape an empowered Catholicism not just for LGBT people, but for all. We offer our deepest condolences to Charlie [pictured with John above right in 2012] and commend him for his faithful companionship and care-giving to John over so many years.

– Marianne Duddy-Burke
DignityUSA Executive Director



I first became aware of John McNeill at the 1985 DignityUSA Convention. He spoke to us about his book and challenged us by his mere presence to join him in asserting with sincerity and courage, that God loved us in our identity and our sexuality and that we could remain faithful and whole in the presence of our God. A prophet, perhaps ahead of his time, whose message liberated many of us; a man of courage who, following his conscience, spoke truth to power and showed us how to do the same. He will be missed on earth, welcomed with the saints in heaven, leaving with us the message that living rooted in the Gospel is the only way to be whole and holy. May God help us make his legacy a reality in our work and in our lives.

– Lourdes Rodriguez-Nogues
DignityUSA President



When [I was] asked to step up to leadership, I was not an easy sell. The state of the organization had been quite stressful during my previous five years on the board. I was between jobs and feeling quite stressed myself. The needs seemed too great and I felt too weak. John called me to talk. He told me he believed I had the gifts required at the moment. He countered my instinctive Catholic rush to take it all along with a reminder that it was not my job to "save" Dignity. John said, "Just bring your gifts to the table and trust the Spirit will provide the rest. She has seen us through many trials. If we are meant to survive we will. But that is to be determined by forces bigger than any of us." I immediately felt the perceived "burden" lift. He reframed it for me. I was able to say yes. John was right – the Spirit has provided for our needs in abundance. John got us past a major sticking point with the wisdom he has shared with me then – as he has in countless ways thru our journey to the Promised Land.

– Mark Matson
Former DignityUSA President



My recollections of John go back to 1973 in Hollywood. His contributions to the equality and justice of the LGBT community are legendary. We all owe him a tremendous debt of gratitude.

– Pat McArron
Former DignityUSA President



John McNeill was a giant in the LGBT Catholic movement. He taught us all to take risks and trust in the Holy Spirit. In one of his later gatherings, he believed the Holy Spirit was always at work. He looked forward to the day the church officials would recognize the gifts of LGBT people and women.

– Lewis Speaks-Tanner
Incoming DignityUSA President
and member of Dignity/New York



Meanwhile, at Bondings 2.0, the blog of New Ways Ministry, Sr. Jeannine Gramick and Francis DeBernardo share their thoughts on the life and legacy of John McNeill.


John McNeill was a dear friend and colleague. He was a true pioneer in whose footsteps so many of us followed. I learned so much from his research and writing, but I learned even more from personal interactions with him, by witnessing the passion and human concern he had for every LGBT person he encountered.

– Jeannine Gramick
Co-Founder, New Ways Ministry



John McNeill was a good friend of New Ways Ministry for many years. He had a rare mixture of both a great heart and a great mind. His “academic” theological work was informed not only by philosophical principles and logic, but by awareness of deep and real human needs. It is not an overstatement to say that any of the pastoral, political, theological, and practical advances that LGBT Catholics have made in recent years could only have been brought about because of John’s ground-breaking work.

– Francis DeBernardo
Executive Director, New Ways Ministry



In remembrance of John and his pioneering work, his family has established The John J. McNeill Legacy Fund to provide support for the preservation and dissemination of his writings, lectures and teachings. An immediate goal of this fund will be the digitization of his correspondence, audio/visual recordings and other archival works so that they will be available for scholarly research as well as to continue the work to which he devoted his life of inspiring and empowering the worldwide gay and lesbian community.

To learn more and/or make a donation, click here.


Related Off-site Links:
The Rev. John J. McNeill, Jesuit Priest Who Became Famed LGBT Activist, Dies at 90 – Steve Rothaus (Miami Herald, September 23, 2015).
"Patron Saint" of LGBT Catholics, John J. McNeill, 90, Dies – Thomas C. Fox (National Catholic Reporter, September 24, 2015).
Reflecting on the Life and Ministry of John McNeill, Gay Theology Pioneer – Francis DeBernardo (Bondings 2.0, September 24, 2015).
RIP John McNeill: Pioneering Gay Priest and Patron Saint of LGBT Catholics – Kittredge Cherry (Jesus in Love Blog, September 24, 2015).
Father John McNeill, Gay Catholic Pioneer, Dead at 90 – Andy Humm (Gay City News, September 25, 2015).
John McNeill, Priest Who Pushed Catholic Church to Welcome Gays, Dies at 90 – Margalit Fox (The New York Times, September 25, 2015).
Rev. John McNeill Dies at 90; Gay Priest and Author Expelled by Jesuits – Elaine Woo (The Los Angeles Times, September 29, 2015).

UPDATES: The Spiritual Legacy of John J. McNeill – Mary E. Hunt (Beacon Broadside, October 5, 2015).
Jesuit John McNeill Changed the Conversation on Gays – Alexander Santora (The Jersey Journal, December 28, 2015).

See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
• John McNeill's Message to the US Bishops: "Enough!"
• Gay People and the Spiritual Life
• "Catholic Harvey Milk," Fr. Robert Carter, Dies at 82

Image: John McNeill pictured with (from left) Dan McCarthy, Bernard Lynch and Robert Carter at a gay pride march in the early 1980s.


Friday, December 19, 2014

Fall Round Up

Can you believe it's been over three years since I did a "round-up" post? Time sure flies.

So without further ado, here's a "round-up" of recent online articles and commentaries that I've found to be of particular interest. Perhaps you will too!

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First up is a recent story from the good folks at New Ways Ministry. On the group's indispensable blog, Bondings 2.0, Francis DeBernardo reported on the December 15 meeting between New Ways Ministry staff and Archbishop Salvatore Cordileone of San Francisco. The purpose of this meeting was to "help enrich understanding of each other’s approaches to marriage equality and LGBT issues."

I remember when Cordileone's presence at a conference at the University of St. Thomas was protested back in 2010 by over 300 people, including many Catholics. Cordileone was one of two high profile anti-marriage equality activists invited to the Twin Cities by Archbishop John Nienstedt and the Office of Marriage, Family, and Life to address the archdiocesan “Reclaiming the Culture of Marriage and Life” conference. The other was Maggie Gallagher of the National Organization of Marriage (NOM). (For images and commentary on this protest, click here.) With all of this in mind, I was heartened by news of the meeting between New Ways Ministry and Archbishop Cordileone.

Following is an excerpt from DeBernardo's report, accompanied by a picture from Bondings 2.0 showing Archbishop Cordileone with DeBernardo and New Ways Ministry co-founder Sister Jeannine Gramick, SL.


As the conversation progressed, [we] discussed how Catholic groups with opposing views on marriage can better understand and speak with one another. Cordileone mentioned Pope Francis’ idea of “encounter,” of meeting people where they are and beginning a dialogue with them. Cordileone stressed the importance of breaking down stereotypes on each side of the issue. He noted that both groups sometimes say things that cause harm to the other side, and that the harm is often not intended.

New Ways Ministry asked for advice on how LGBT Catholics and their families can initiate dialogues with their local bishops. He noted that bishops often have many demands on their time and many requests for appointments. A more practical route may be for people to request meetings with directors of diocesan ministries, such as family life, or with other chancery officials.

New Ways Ministry asked how a lesbian or gay person could speak to the U.S. bishops at one of their meetings. Cordileone mentioned that a member of the Courage ministry group, which promotes celibacy for lesbian and gay Catholics, has spoken to the bishops’ conference in the past. New Ways Ministry asked if other lesbian and gay persons could speak to the bishops. He considered this and seemed receptive to hearing the perspectives of gay and lesbian parish members. Cordileone also noted that there is a great need to find ways to reach out to lesbian and gay people who are not close to the Church, including those who have been alienated from the institution.


DeBernardo's article drew a range of online responses. Here's a sampling:

• Congratulations to Archbishop Cordileone, Sister Jeannine Grammick, and Frank DeBernardo for taking the courageous step of engaging in dialogue with someone on the other side of such a contentious issue. As Christians, we are called upon to love our enemies – a very tall order indeed. Listening respectfully to those who disagree with us is a good start. – Nancy E. Sulfridge

• While I appreciate the civil tone that prevailed in this encounter, the article struck me as more than a little Pollyannaish. Can we also get a critical sense of what's not being discussed, like basic civil rights: employment non-discrimination legislation, housing discrimination protections, hate crime legislation advocacy, etc. – Matthew Nelson

• How appropriate, during Advent, to have this sign of Hope! The "Francis effect" seems to be spreading. – Drew Conneen

• Always good to have dialogue but I didn't sense any real compromises being offered. Maybe, the Church Synod in 2015 will provide the basis for some softening of the church's position on civil same-sex marriage and other issues. If not, many practicing Catholics will continue to ignore the church hierarchy. The Catholic church is not the bishops, cardinals or those in Vatican City. Rather, it's the people in local parishes doing their best to live as Jesus taught without the extra dogma dreamed up over the centuries by the church hierarchy. – Jim Stockholm

• Congratulations on two fronts today: this meeting with Archbishop Cordileone, and the Vatican's new tone toward the U.S. women's religious. – Adam James


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Adam James' comment above brings to mind Ken Briggs perceptive National Catholic Reporter commentary on the Vatican's final report on the apostolic visitation of American nuns, launched in 2008 by Cardinal Franc Rodé, then prefect of the Congregation for Religious Life. As many have noted, the tone of this investigation has shifted markedly from its inception to its final report. For Briggs, this shift is "the Vatican's face-saving effort to wriggle out of a bad situation." Here's just a snippet of his commentary . . .

It's my opinion that the authorities who set the investigation in motion, and the entire hierarchy, brought much more calumny on itself than it visited upon the nuns. In the United States, at least, the eruption of frustration over "disobedient" sisters (I think the indictment covered both investigations) ended up principally bringing disrespect on themselves for bullying women for whom the laity had the highest regard, as shown in the enormous outpouring of support for them.

An institution like the church does not become ancient without having acute political antenna, and the message that came with the backlash was that the Vatican's effort to push its symbolic weight around (its hefty poundage isn't in question) came to naught – and worse, the disrepute they had unleashed on themselves was compounding their other troubles. Hypothetically speaking, the pragmatic thing to do was to call off the dogs and pat the dear sisters half-heartedly on the head.


Also worth checking out is Sister Joan Chittister's commentary, "The Ending Should Have Been the Beginning," in which she says that by relegating the visitation to a friendly dialogue, the report "denied women religious the apology they deserve."


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Meanwhile in Minnesota . . . It's being said that the embattled John Nienstedt will be out as Archbishop of St. Paul-Minneapolis in February and replaced by Bishop Richard Pates as interim archbishop. (Pates, who is currently the Bishop of Des Moines, had formerly been an auxiliary bishop here in St. Paul-Minneapolis.)

Even before this latest talk of Nienstedt ouster began circulating, the Catholic Coalition for Church Reform (CCCR), on whose board I sit, was taking positive and proactive steps around lay participation in the selection of the next archbishop.

The following excerpt from CCCR's November 25 media release explains these steps.

Members of the Catholic Coalition for Church Reform (CCCR) Lay Network have “voted” and selected three priests of the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis to be bishop/archbishop.

The three priests who rose to the top of a slate of seven are Frs. J. Michael Byron of St. Pascal Baylon, St. Paul; Paul Feela of Lumen Christi, St. Paul; and Timothy Wozniak of St. Thomas Becket, Eagan. None of the priests on the slate were consulted, nor did they give their consent to be included in this initiative. Those that voted believe these men would be able to unify polarized factions in this archdiocese and bring Catholics together to accomplish the Church’s mission. (Learn about the selection process at www.cccrmn.org.)

Lay Catholics can’t actually elect their own leadership (hence, vote in quotes), but the CCCR’s Bishop Selection Task Force created the opportunity for local Catholics to “vote” for several reasons:

• To help local laity identify the priests in this archdiocese in whom they have confidence to be effective leaders.

• To promote lay Catholics’ ability to raise a unified voice in support of a healthy, sustainable local church.

• To begin to re-establish the teachings set forth by the Second Vatican Council, which called for lay Catholics to actively participate in their church.

• To help increase the Vatican’s awareness and understanding of the needs of this archdiocese.


Currently, CCCR is urging local Catholics to write to Archbishop Carlo Maria Viganò, the papal nuncio (the Vatican’s ambassador) to the U.S. It is Archbishop Viganò who decides which names will be forwarded to Rome when bishops and archbishops are needed in the U.S. Those who write may recommend the priests identified by the vote, other priests they feel are credible choices for bishop/archbishop, and/or qualities they feel are essential to reunifying the archdiocese and refocusing on the mission of the church.

Correspondence to the papal nuncio should be sent to:

Archbishop Carlo Maria Viganò,
Papal Nuncio to the U.S.
3339 Massachusetts Avenue, N.W.
Washington, D.C. 20008-3687

nuntiususa@nuntiususa.org


CCCR is sharing on its website some of the letters Catholics in the archdiocese have written to Archbishop Viganò. Here's just one of them . . .

Dear Archbishop Viganò,

Almost every day, I pick up the daily paper or hear on the news of another violation of trust by Archdiocesan officials. The latest is that we are facing a serious financial crisis and lay employees are being let go. I don’t see how we can heal or come together as a local church without new leadership to restore hope and confidence. We, as members of the Catholic Coalition for Church reform, have tried to do what is in our power to remedy this situation by following the Bishop selection process provided by the Bishop Selection Task Force (BSTF).

I studied the candidates put forth by the BSTF and my number one and two choices were also the number one and two choices of the 410 persons who participated in the balloting.

I would very much like you to consider Father J. Michael Byron or Father Paul Feela, when the time comes for you to nominate a new leader for the St. Paul/ Minneapolis Archdiocese. Both inspire us to bring about the Kingdom of God as American citizens living in the 21st century.

My prayers for you and for Pope Francis as you discern what is in the best spiritual interest of those who live in the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis.

Sincerely,

Patricia A. Whalen


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La lucha, Mi pulpito is a blog that describes itself as "a Catholic's lucha to redefine and reclaim the pulpit . . . a queerly sacred space for living, laughing, and loving beyond the norm." I recently added it to The Wild Reed's list of recommended blogsites (located in sidebar at right).

Created and maintained by "delfinwaldemar," the site recently launched a series entitled "Queering Catholicism." The first part of this series looks at "How to Query Church Teaching," while the second responds to the question, "Are Queer Relationships Compatible with Church Teaching?" I particularly appreciate the following from Part II.

There are several scholars who believe that the full expression of same-sex love and pleasure within a personal, mutual relationship is entirely compatible with the Church’s teaching of marriage and sexuality. Many argue that sexuality is a gift from God and when expressed in a personal, mutual relationship it is therefore natural and accepted. Hence, TQBLG individuals believe that their sexuality is “created, sustained, and blessed by God” (Yip, 1997b, p. 172). If God is love, why would God be less present in the love of a queer couple than a heterosexual couple? Many queer couples firmly believe that achieving a Christian partnership based on Christian values is achievable—their relationships are based on mutual love, mutual sharing, faithfulness, mutual commitment to pleasure…mutuality in its various forms and expressions.

On a personal note, my beloved and I have accepted the teaching of the Church and embodied it in our relationship. Our relationship (and those of countless others) is based on the idea of sexuality that the Catechism expresses. We believe in and live by “intimate and chaste union”; we practice and strive for self-giving to each other by caring for the other when sick and supporting each other’s adventures (such as working 3 jobs to support the other while in divinity school); we experience pleasure and enjoyment through our bodies by affirming each other’s beauty, balding, flat-footedness, and pudginess; and have transmitted life by affirming, celebrating, and challenging each other’s lives and personhood in fullness (even when we may not agree with each other)—our relationship has been life-giving to us and to those we welcome into our casa. By the Church’s standards, Jason and I are being faithful to the church’s teaching in every sense of fidelity and fecundity. Our coming together may not be able to produce children, but we can transmit life by pro-creating love and laughter through the formation of a family, be it how we treat and include our families of origin in our lives, the family formed through our inner sanctum of friends, extending the Body of Christ by how we treat those we engage with in the world, and through whatever means we decide to have children (which is a whole set of other entries!).

Christian members of the TQBLG community have been able to manage faith and sexual identity signifying their ability to not only survive but thrive, live, and celebrate in a social, religious environment that many times does not accept or support them. Though many are amazed, queer Catholics are finding ways to be who they are and find their place in the Church. Pope Benedict XV said that there was to be no distinction among Catholics—we are all Catholics, period! One cannot be sure whether or not he had queer Catholics in mind, but many TQBLG individuals are proud of their Catholic faith and through their experiences are opening doors so that all people can celebrate and commune as one body.


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Speaking of gay relationships, I recently discovered a very informative and insightful article by Adam Blum about gay men in monogamous relationships.

Writes Blum:

There’s a widespread myth that gay men can’t, won’t, or don’t maintain long-term monogamous relationships. The reality, according to good research, is that hundreds of thousands of gay men in long-term relationships are enjoying sexually satisfying monogamous relationships.


Blum goes on to discuss four tips for those interested in maintaining a long-term monogamous relationship: 1) talk about sex; 2) unleash creativity; 3) resolve resentments; and 4) know what you are yearning for. These tips, of course, are applicable to any couple, regardless of sexual orientation (as are the "eight surprising (and scientifically proven) things that lead to a lasting marriage" highlighted by Amanda Scherker in her December 15 Huffington Post article).

Blum concludes his article with these words of wisdom:

While you won’t find much talk about it on Grinder or Manhunt or at most gay bars, many gay men prefer monogamy. If you haven’t found a man willing to join you in your desire for monogamy, then you may be looking in the wrong places. You’ll find them volunteering at gay community organizations, finding inspiration at gay cultural events, or building their skills at gay recreational or educational clubs.


For more such thoughts and reflections, see The Wild Reed's special series of posts entitled "A Gay Man's Guide to Love and Loving."


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Okay, here's some music news that I'm very happy to share: Kate Bush's "Before the Dawn" concert series was hailed at a recent London theatre awards ceremony for creating "a new high in music performance."




Reports ClassicRock.com:

[Kate Bush's] sold-out 22-date residency in London, which ran from August to September, was her first major live commitment since 1979. Bush accepted the Editor's Award at the Evening Standard Theatre Awards from actor Sir Ian McKellan. The event was hosted by comedians Steve Coogan and Rob Brydon.

In October she thanked fans for their support for Before The Dawn, calling it “one of the most extraordinary experiences of my life” and adding: “It was a truly special and wonderful feeling for all of us.” But she also suggested it would be “a while” before she appeared again.

Two shows in mid-September were filmed for a possible DVD release. The residency led to reignited interest in her back-catalogue, making chart history when she became the first female artist to have eight albums in the top 40 at the same time.


For The Wild Reed's compilation of "Before the Dawn" review highlights, click here.

For Martin Glover's eloquent and insightful exploration of the mysticism that imbues the persona and music of Kate Bush, click here.


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In movie news, Cameron Bailey notes at TIFF.com:

The Prophet, by Lebanese author Kahlil Gibran, is among the most popular volumes of poetry ever written, having inspired millions of readers in over forty languages since its publication in 1923. The book's timeless verses have been given enchanting new form in Kahlil Gibran's The Prophet, an animated anthology film that assembles a host of renowned international artists to reconfigure Gibran's elegant text as a painterly cinematic adventure.




Kahlil Gibran's The Prophet definitely sounds like a film that's not to be missed, and from what I've read online, the critics are raving about it. One of the most informative and eloquent reviews I've come across is by Drew McWeeny, whose writing on the film is posted at HitFix.com. Here's part of what Drew has to say . . .

Since May, I've spent a fair amount of time with the book. I knew it before then, but it had been years since I'd picked it up, and this time around, I found something much richer and much more profound waiting for me. This time, I was open to the book in a way I'm not sure I was when I read it as a young man. This time, instead of it feeling like someone telling me the way things are supposed to be and me shaking it off because of some perceived young man's superiority, I felt like I was reading real wisdom that I can recognize now because of the various scars and sweetnesses I've accumulated in the twenty years between readings.

In the book, Almustafa is a poet who is beloved in the city of Orphalese, and after twelve long years, he prepares to catch a boat that will take him home. Before he can leave, the entire city comes out to see him, and a seeress named Almitra asks him to share some thoughts before he goes, leading to a series of twenty-six poems on very specific topics like love, marriage, work, joy and sorrow, laws, freedom, friendship, and more. Much of what he says is self-evident, but the way he says it in the book is what gives it such power. Gibran was a beautiful writer, and the book is full of truly powerful imagery.

It's not a huge narrative, though, and so when Salma Hayek began putting together a team to try to bring the movie to life, one of the first things they had to do was figure out how to make that work as the framework for the movie. To that end, Mustafa (Liam Neeson)has now become a political dissident, a poet whose work moved the people of Orphalese to begin to question the way things are. He's spent seven years under house arrest, seeing almost no one except for Kamila (Hayek), his housekeeper. He's still writing and painting, but the work goes unseen. Finally, the authorities decide something must be done and the local Sergeant (Alfred Molina) comes to tell Mustafa that he'll be taken to a ship in the harbor, where he is to leave Orphalese and never return in exchange for his freedom. There's another darker plan afoot, though, one that only Kamila's daughter knows about. And since Almitra (Quvenzhané Wallis) hasn't spoken since the death of her father several years earlier, it may not be possible for anyone to save Mustafa.

The structure allows for a number of natural digressions as Mustafa seems happy to discuss any subject. For example, Almitra is a bit of a wild child, and at one point, Kamila complains that she can't control her. Mustafa tells her of course she can't, since our children are not ours to control. This leads into Nina Paley's segment of the film, set to a lovely Damien Rice song that uses Gibran's words as lyrics.

. . . From each segment, we come back to Mustafa's story, and we move further towards that inevitable showdown when he is offered a simple choice: renounce his words and all of his ideas and be allowed to board that ship, or stand behind the things he's said as he stands in front of a firing line.

. . . When Salma Hayek began the long journey of trying to get this property produced as an animated film, I doubt she fully understood just how difficult it would be. Animation is so often thought of as only a children's medium, and while I think the wraparound story here has been crafted so that it's really told from Almitra's point of view, the segments themselves aren't childish at all.

One of them, Joann Sfar's segment on marriage, is illustrated as a beautiful tango in which the space between the dancers is as important as the places where they connect, a stunning and simple visual accompaniment to the segment on love, directed by Tomm Moore. Neither of them deals with anything children are going to fully understand, but they are visually entrancing, and that's true of each of the segment's. There's a lovely early bit by Michal Socha on freedom in which people are portrayed first as birdcages holding in beautiful flocks, and then as tangled strings that hold them to a tree. It looks like it's water color and pastel chalks, but it's all CG, and it sets a high bar for the rest of the segments in terms of surreal beauty.




Bill Plympton brings his trademark visual style to the film, but with a sincerity and an emotional directness I'm not used to in his work. Each of the directors works in a radically different style, while the wraparound, directed and written by Roger Allers, is gorgeous hand-animation in the style of vintage Disney, a safe choice that should help to draw in audiences who aren't used to the wildly experimental.


To read Drew McWeeny review of Kahlil Gibran's The Prophet in its entirety, click here.


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With the end of the year approaching, I've started noticing various retrospectives and "best of" lists. For instance, the staff at Yahoo! Movies have compiled a list of the "40 Best Movies of 2014, while The Telegraph newspaper ranks 2014's "Five Best Moments in Popular Music." (Number one is the previously highlighted return of Kate Bush to the concert stage with her "magical, theatrical 22 night stint at Hammersmith Apollo.")

Meanwhile over at The Huffington Post, Sara Boboltz has put together an interactive gay rights global timeline, documenting what the world's queer people and communities have already accomplished (or haven't yet accomplished) this century.

Writes Boboltz:

For queer people, in many ways, there has never been a time in history like the present. Although oppression and inequality are still rampant, there have also in recent years been a number of firsts, breakthroughs and other positive developments that once seemed like they would never come.

2014 was an especially good year for queer equality in the U.S. Over 60 percent of Americans now live in states that permit same-sex marriage, and advocates in ever-increasing numbers are speaking out for the cause.

We don't mean to suggest that there haven't been setbacks, or that things aren't still wildly unjust in almost every part of the world. But at the same time, we think it's worth observing, and celebrating, the real progress that the 21st century has brought to many.


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And how's this for a sign of progress . . . a nine-year-old girl in the U.K. has declared her gay teacher "brave" and "awesome" in a poignant letter, written to him after he came out to the entire class during an anti-bullying lesson.

Following is an excerpt from Beth Greenfield's Yahoo! News article about this hopeful and inspiring story.


“Even though you’re gay, I will always treat you the same way as I do now,” wrote the student, identified as “A,” according to the U.K.’s Pink News. “I still think about you the same way as I used to. You’re a great teacher and these are just some of the words that I would describe you as: great, amazing, fantastic, brilliant, awesome and brave.

The reason why I say brave is because you shared a personal secret which was very brave. You don’t have to feel scared because I know that everyone in the class feels the same way as I do. From A . . . xxx P.S. We are all proud of you.”

The teacher, identified only as “Mr. R,” told Pink News, “Reading it brought tears to my eyes, and it took me a little while to compose myself. When I thanked her she just shrugged and repeated something one of the boys in the class had said during the lesson: ‘It’s just your life’. Then she went back to her maths.” He added, “For my class it was a surprise, sure, but to them it was just something simple and easy to file away as another piece of information. There was no judgment, no follow up, just acceptance.”

Mr. R explained that, “as a primary school teacher, I’d always worried about mentioning my sexuality, despite the fact that my colleagues talked about their husbands, wives, and significant others all the time.” After holding conversations with his class as part of anti-bullying week, though, he found out that almost every student in his class thought that people who were gay or lesbian were “bad or wrong in some way”; additionally, most said they’d heard the word “gay” used as an insult. So the teacher spoke with the principal about coming out to the class as part of his lesson, and received his full support. “We agreed I could tell the class that I’m gay so they at least knew one gay person, and hopefully explain that when people use that word, they’re talking about me.”


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And finally, some more beautiful and wise words . . . ones to ponder (and hopefully embody) as we move into the often hectic "holiday season."





See also the previous Wild Reed Round-Ups:
• Summer 2011
• Spring 2010
• (Australian) Summer 2009 II
• Summer 2009
• Spring 2009
• (Australian) Summer 2009
• Fall 2007
• Spring 2007
• End of Year (2006)

Opening image: Hugh Jackman in Australia.


Wednesday, July 10, 2013

An Inspiring Evening of Conversation and Camaraderie


Last night I had the honor and pleasure of hosting an evening of conversation and camaraderie that brought together some very inspiring people. Special guests at this gathering were Sr. Jeannine Gramick and Francis DeBernardo from the national organization New Ways Ministry, which describes itself as "a gay-positive ministry of advocacy and justice for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) Catholics, and reconciliation within the larger Christian and civil communities."

In addition, there was a number of local Catholics who have for many years and in a variety of ways been advocating for and ministering with LGBT Catholics and their families and friends. Many of those gathered had worked to defeat last year's proposed 'marriage amendment.' Some of the local organizations represented included the Catholic Pastoral Committee on Sexual Minorities (CPCSM), Catholics for Marriage Equality MN (C4ME-MN), Dignity Twin Cities, the Catholic Coalition for Church Reform (CCCR), the Council of the Baptized, and the Spirit of St. Stephen's Catholic Community.

Left: Jeannie Gramick, SL, with theologian Bill Hunt.

Jeannine, co-founder in 1977 of New Ways Ministry, has for over three decades been a prophetic voice for LGBT Catholics and an astute critic of the Vatican's impoverished understanding of homosexuality and of the gifts that LGBT people offer both the church and wider society. She's also an informed and eloquent speaker and writer, and the subject of the award-winning documentary, In Good Conscience.

In May of this year, Jeannie debated Bishop Thomas Paprocki of Springfield, Illinois on marriage equality at an event organized by Robert Blair Kaiser and the Jesuit Alumni of Arizona. For a transcript of Jeannine's remarks, click here. For the National Catholic Reporter's coverage of the debate, click here.



Above: Standing at left with Francis DeBernardo, executive director of New Ways Ministry, and Kathleen Olsen, my good friend and fellow CPCSM/C4ME-MN board member – July 9, 2013.

As well as serving as New Ways Ministry's executive director, Frank is also the editor of the group's excellent blog, Bondings 2.0, which provides timely news updates, quality commentary, and spiritual/theological reflections on current Catholic LGBT issues.



Above: Darlene White, Paula Ruddy, Jeannine Gramick, and Cheryl Maloney.

Jeannine and Frank were in Minnesota to present a workshop at last weekend's DignityUSA National Convention, held at the Minneapolis Hilton. My friend and fellow C4ME-MN board member Jim Smith serves as DignityUSA's program manager, and in the lead-up to the July 4-7 convention had an informative article published in the Twin Cities' Lavender magazine, entitled "Queer and Dignified . . . and Catholic. Huh?."



When Frank first contacted me about the possibility of him and Jeannine meeting with local Catholics working on LGBT issues, he noted that their main purpose was "a sort of ‘fact-finding’" one. They were eager to learn more about what has been going on with local Catholic folks around LGBT issues, and were open to sharing with us any helpful information and insights they might have. It was, therefore, very much an evening of sharing and discussing of recent successes and ongoing challenges.

Right: Paula Ruddy, who's been described as the "matriarch of the Catholic reform movement" in the Twin Cities, and Fr. Mike Tegeder, who was the only active priest in the Archdiocese of St. Paul-Minneapolis to publicly challenge Archbishop Nienstedt's anti-marriage equality activism.





Left: CPCSM and C4ME-MN board members Brent Vanderlinden and Mary Beckfeld.



Above: With Fr. John Brandes, who in May 2012 joined with two other retired Catholic priests to speak out against the proposed 'marriage amendment.' John is also the inspiration for the character of "Father Brandon" in my semi-autobiographical Wild Reed series The Journal of James Curtis.



Above: Jeannine Gramick, Lisa Vanderlinden
and Paula Ruddy – July 9, 2013.



Above: Brent, Mary and Kathleen.



Above: Henry, Ron and Jay.



Without doubt it was a very enjoyable and inspiring evening, with many recent highlights shared and a number of strategies and hopes expressed concerning the building of a Catholic Church truly welcoming of LGBT people.

One of the things I shared as executive coordinator of CPCSM/Catholics for Marriage Equality MN was the results of the questionnaire that we had visitors complete when they stopped by our booth at the recent Twin Cities Pride festival. I'll share these results in a future post at both The Wild Reed and Sensus Fidelium, the blogsite of Catholics for Marriage Equality MN.

One final thing I'll mention about last night's gathering: Because it took place on the second anniversary of the death of CPCSM co-founder David McCaffrey, we remembered David's life and legacy during a time of prayer at the beginning of our evening together. We all noted how appropriate it was that we were gathering on this special anniversary so as to talk and strategize about local LGBT Catholic organizing. In so doing, we were continuing David's groundbreaking work and vision for a better church.



I envision and work to create a Church that is open
and responsive to the needs and gifts of all its members;
a Church that is meaningful and nurturing of all,
and one that recognizes the equal status of all.

– David J. McCaffrey
1947 – 2011


See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
Sister Jeannine Gramick Asks: "Who Speaks for Catholics?"
Beyond Papalism
Francis DeBernardo: "The Church is Better Because of the Presence of LGBT People"
Quote of the Day – June 26, 2013
Acknowledging, Celebrating, and Learning from Marriage Equality's 'Triumphs of Faith'
An Energizing and Spirited Weekend
Remembering David McCaffrey, One Year On


Saturday, December 29, 2012

Acknowledging, Celebrating, and Learning from Marriage Equality's 'Triumphs of Faith'

I mentioned in a previous post that pro-marriage equality Christian and Jewish faith leaders from Maine, Maryland, North Carolina, Minnesota and Washington gathered December 3-4 at the Washington, DC headquarters of the Human Rights Campaign.

Here we acknowledged and celebrated recent advances in marriage equality in our respective states – advances in which people of faith and religious organizations played key roles. As Sharon Groves, Director of HRC's Religion and Faith Program, reminded us, "The faith work in all the states was the 'win work' in all the states."

We also shared what worked best in our respective campaigns, and strategized and planned for further nationwide advances in the journey toward full equality for LGBT individuals, couples and families. It was a very inspiring event, and one I was honored to be part of as Executive Coordinator of Catholics for Marriage Equality MN.

Following are some images of my time at HRC's "Triumphs of Faith Five State Debrief," an event that afforded me the privilege to meet and work with some of the truly great U.S. religious leaders of our time.




Right: With friends Adele Brown and Jim Smith. Adele is lead organizer with the Jewish Community Action in Minnesota, while Jim is a fellow board member of Catholics for Marriage Equality MN and the Program Director for DignityUSA.






Above: Director of HRC's Religion and Faith Program, Dr. Sharon Groves (center), with Religion and Faith Program assistant Michael Toumayan and Leslie Watson Malachi, who was our phenomenal facilitator for the two-day debrief (left).








Above: The faith team from North Carolina. From left: Caitlin Breedlove (Co-Director of Southerners On New Ground), Ryan Rowe (Field Organizer for the Human Rights Campaign), Bishop Tonyia Rawls (Founding Pastor of Unity Fellowship Church Charlotte, Founder and Executive Director of the Freedom Center for Social Justice, and Prelate of the Fourth Jurisdiction Unity Fellowship Church Movement), Rev. Dr. T. Anthony Spearman (Senior Pastor of the Clinton Tabernacle African Methodist Episcopal Zion Church and the Third Vice President of the North Carolina NAACP) and Dr. Karin Quimby (Southern Regional Field Director for the Human Rights Campaign).



Above: Rev. Dr. T. Anthony Spearman at the HRC debriefing.



Above: The Minnesota faith team! Thanks to my friend Adele Brown for this photo! I'm standing at right with (from left) Kathleen Campisano (Senior Field Organizer for the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force and the Faith Organizing Manager with the Task Force's Institute for Welcoming Resources), Emily Eastwood (Executive Director of Reconciling Works: Lutherans for Full Participation), Adele Brown (lead organizer with Jewish Community Action), Rev. Grant Stevenson (Faith Director for Minnesotans United for All Families), Javen Swanson (Deputy Faith Director for Minnesotans United for All Families), Jim Smith (board member of Catholics for Marriage Equality MN and Program Manager for DignityUSA), and Rev. Rebecca Voelkel (the Institute for Welcoming Resources and Faith Work Director for the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force).



Above: Sharon Groves (left), Director of the Religion and Faith Program at HRC with the faith team of Washington State: Rev. Dedra Peevey (Faith Director of Washington United for Marriage), Barbara Guzzo (Co-Founder of Catholics for Marriage Equality WA), Kirby Brown (member of the Steering Committee of Catholics for Marriage Equality WA), Kari Lipke (Regional Director for Reconciling Works: Lutherans for Full Participation) and Aubrey Thonvold (Faith Outreach Specialist with the Pride Foundation for the Washington marriage equality campaign).



Above: Rev. Dedra Peevy of Catholics for Marriage Equality WA.



Above: Rev. MacArthur H. Flournoy, theologian, author, preacher, and Deputy Director of the Religion and Faith Program for the Human Rights Campaign.



Above: Rev. Dr. Marvin Ellison of Maine's Bangor Theological Seminary.



As I noted at the beginning of this post, people of faith played a critically important role in the recent advances in marriage equality. And included among these 'people of faith' are many Catholics!

In the photo above I'm standing at left with Catholic marriage equality leaders from Maine, Minnesota, Maryland and Washington. Pictured next to me from left: Anne Underwood, Co-Founder of Catholics for Marriage Equality – Maine; Ryan Sattler, primary Catholic lay organizer for the Maryland Marriage Equality Campaign; Joseph Palacios, Co-Founder of Catholics for Equality; Cynthia Beliveau of Catholics for Marriage Equality – Maine; Jim Smith of Catholics for Marriage Equality – Minnesota; Barbara Guzzo, co-founder of Catholics for Marriage Equality – Washington; Jeannine Gramick, Co-Founder of New Ways Ministry; Marianne Duddy-Burke, President of DignityUSA; Francis DeBernardo, Executive Director of New Ways Ministry; and Chris Pumpelly, Communications and Development Director of Catholics United.



Above: Anne Underwood, Co-Founder of Catholics for Marriage Equality - Maine.



Above (from left): Marianne Duddy-Burke, President of DignityUSA; Jim Smith, Program Manager for DignityUSA and board member of Catholics for Marriage Equality MN; Sister Jeannine Gramick, Co-Founder of New Ways Ministry; and Frank DeBerardo, Executive Director of New Ways Ministry.


Left: Dr. Joseph Palacios of Georgetown University, co-founder of Catholics for Equality, sociologist of religion, and author of The Catholic Social Imagination: Activism and the Just Society in Mexico and the U.S. Sitting behind Joseph is Chris Pumpelly, Communications and Development Director of Catholics United.




Above: Standing with (from left) Barbara Guzzo, Joseph Palacios and Anne Underwood.



Above: Rev. Dr. Delman Coates, Senior Pastor of Mt. Ennon Baptist Church in Clinton, Maryland. Rev. Coates was uniquely instrumental for the Maryland campaign and provided leadership to the cadre of African American faith leaders supporting the pro-marriage equality measure 'Question 6.' To view the TV ad featuring Rev. Coates, click here.



Above: Marty Rouse, the National Field Director for the Human Rights Campaign.



Above: Bishop Yvette Flunder, Presiding Bishop of the Fellowship of Affirming Ministries, a multi-denominational fellowship of Pastors and Christian leaders representing 100+ churches and faith-based organizations.



I have to thank my friends David and Thew for taking such good care of me while I was in Washington, D.C. Thew vacated his beautiful Dupont Circle apartment (in the tallest building pictured above) so that I could have the place to myself. David, meanwhile, wrote up detailed directions that made my navigating of the city both fun and easy! Thanks, guys!

One place I visited while in D.C. was the National Museum of the American Indian (left). For images and commentary on this visit, click here.


Recommended Off-site Links:
Marriage Equality Campaigns: The Difference Faith Makes – Sharon Groves (The Washington Post, November 20, 2011).
In Minnesota, Same-Sex Marriage Supporters Want to Move Quickly on a Bill – T.W. Budig (Star News, December 19, 2012).

See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
O Happy Day
Quote of the Day – December 9, 2012
Quote of the Day – November 19, 2012
Something to Celebrate!
Both 'Marriage Amendment' AND 'Voter Photo ID Amendment' Rejected by Minnesota Voters
In Maine and Maryland, History is Made
In the Eye of the Storm, A Tree of Living Flame
Into the Fray
The Minneapolis (and Online) Premiere of Catholics for Marriage Equality