Thursday, July 21, 2011

The Lost Art of the Arioi


Once when I was in Catholic primary (or elementary) school in Australia, a troupe of Polynesian dancers came and entertained the school community. I remember being quite enthralled by their colorful costumes of leaves and grass, shells and flowers; and by their fluid movements and (half-naked) physical beauty. I especially remember being drawn to one particular male dancer, and how strangely elated I felt when he looked me in the eyes and smiled a truly brilliant smile. For the briefest of moments the crowded, noisy school hall dissolved, and it was just he and I. True, my response of elation and connection was somewhat disconcerting – heralding, as it was, an awakening of my little gay boy self. Yet as a wise woman would later remind me: the truth indeed sets us free, but first it often makes us uncomfortable!

I was reminded of all of this when reading about the arioi dancers of Tahiti in Gerald Jonas’ informative and entertaining book, Dancing: The Pleasure, Power, and Art of Movement. I share today an excerpt from this book as part of The Wild Reed’s ongoing series, “The Dancer and the Dance.” Enjoy!

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Again and again during [their] “discovery” of the South Pacific . . . Europeans were struck by the initial friendliness of the natives, by their uninhibited (to European eyes) sexuality, and by their propensity to express themselves through dance. Speaking of the Tahitians, a French sailor reported that “their existence was in never-ending merrymaking.”

. . . The European missionaries who followed the first explorers to Polynesia learned more, and liked less, about the native dances. On Tahiti and its neighboring islands, where food was usually plentiful, men and women seemed to dance at every opportunity, day or night – to please their gods, to celebrate the completion of communal work projects, to praise their chiefs, and, apparently, for the sheer fun of it. They also had an elaborate dance theater. A fleet of up to seventy canoes made a circuit from island to island carrying a troupe of actor-dancers called arioi, who had renounced ordinary life to devote themselves to the cult of Oro, god of rain and fertility. Some of their canoes were rigged with platforms for performances, so that the singing and dancing could begin even before the fleet reached land. Once on shore the performances continued through the night in houses specially built for this purpose.

Among the high points of the performances were mime shows featuring men with mock phalluses fashioned from distended animal bladders; their grossly exaggerated portrayals of sexual intercourse provoked the audience to waves of laughter, as did their satirical skits about the shortcomings (sexual and otherwise) of the most powerful chiefs. Under the rigidly hierarchical system that dominated life on these Polynesian islands, only the arioi were permitted to make fun of the ruling class in public – not unlike the court jesters of medieval Europe.

The first representatives of the newly formed Londan Missionary Society arrived in Tahiti in 1797 and began converting the principal chiefs and local priests. The arioi, who offended the new order both by their devotion to the old gods and by their open sexuality, were suppressed. Within a few years, no trace of their society could be found. By the 1820s dancing of the traditional kind was prohibited as immoral, and the prohibition was extended to all activities associated with dancing – even the making of bark cloth. But the islanders, despite their mass conversion to Christianity, continued to dance in private, away from the prying eyes of missionaries. When the somewhat more tolerant French ousted the English from control of Tahiti in 1842, the traditional dances began a slow comeback, although it was not until the end of the nineteenth century that dancing in public received official sanction.

Today, dance is again a significant part of Tahitian social life. Much of the music now uses Western scales and harmonies, the words of many traditional chants have been lost or are no longer understood, and few if any dances have been preserved intact from the pre-Christian era.





How ironic it is that it was a form of Christianity that drove the art of the Arioi to extinction and yet it was at a Catholic school that I had a deep and sacred part of me awakened and affirmed by the "pleasure, power and art" of Tahitian dance – and thus, I'm sure, something of the Arioi!




See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
In the Garden of Spirituality – Paulo Coelho
The Dancer and the Dance
The Premise of All Forms of Dance
The Church and Dance
Recovering the Queer Artistic Heritage
The Trouble with the Male Dancer (Part 1)
The Trouble with the Male Dancer (Part 2)
The Trouble with the Male Dancer (Part 3)
Dark Matters
The Soul of a Dancer


Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Beyond the Hierarchy: The Blossoming of Liberating Catholic Insights on Sexuality (Part 1)

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Things are getting pretty wild out on the East coast. The National Organization for Marriage, for instance, plans to protest same-sex marriages taking place across New York State on Sunday, July 24. As I’m sure you’re aware, New York legalized civil marriage for same-sex couples last month in what’s been called a “breakthrough victory” for marriage equality. NOM’s planned protests remind me of Fred Phelps’ picketing of gay people’s funerals and the funerals of U.S. soldiers. Fear and bigotry sure are ugly.

Meanwhile in Boston, a vocal minority of Catholics are going absolutely ape-shit over the “scandal” at St Cecilia’s Church, i.e., the parish’s recent “Gay Pride Mass” and the “pastoral malpractice” of its ongoing Rainbow Ministry. Blogger Joe Sacerdo (no, that’s not his real name) is convinced that St. Cecilia’s parish priest John J. Unni and the Rainbow Minisrty “are obviously largely unaffected by the uproar, and are continuing down their merry path.” Accordingly, Joe’s threatening to take the matter to Rome!

Also in Boston, the publication The Boston Pilot recently featured a commentary by Catholic priest Tad Pacholczyk of the National Catholic Bioethics Center. The gist of Pacholczyk’s article is that even if a “gay gene” is discovered, it wouldn’t justify gay “behavior,” by which he means sexual behavior. “Even if we have genes that predispose us towards certain behaviors,” declares Pacholczyk, “ we still have a space of freedom within ourselves, and do not have to engage in those behaviors. Our genes may impel us strongly in certain behavioral directions, but they can’t compel us.”


No real sexual theology

Note that there’s no mention of sexual orientation – that inner reality that for the majority of people moves us to certain affectional and sexual relationships. Rather, there’s just the typical Roman clerical fixation on certain sexual acts. Also, I don’t know anyone – gay, straight or anywhere in-between – who would disagree with the idea that we’re not bound to follow every urge we may have – sexual or otherwise. Of course we’re free to choose how to express our sexuality. We can, for instance, seek and build relationships of mutual love and respect; relationships that bring out the best in an individual and his/her partner and allows both to flourish. At the other end of the spectrum we can selfishly use others solely for our own sexual gratification. Official teaching of the clerical caste doesn’t allow the former for gay people. That’s because the church has no real sexual theology – only a marital theology that dictates that sex is only ever moral when it takes place between married heterosexuals and when it is open to biological procreation. Thus no sexual relationships for the gays – ever! This is the “party line” of the church’s clerical caste.

The Catholic people, however, overwhelmingly reject such a stance. This rejection needs to be taken seriously. Why? Because the Catholic tradition teaches that the collective wisdom of the laity on such important matters needs to be listened to and allowed to shape church teaching. Sadly that is not happening – well, at least at the level of the clerical caste. It is happening, however, among the Catholic people and among Catholic theologians. This is both hopeful and significant as these two groups are two of the three
magisterias of the Catholic Church.

Let us not forget that in Catholicism, the hierarchy, the theologians, and the wisdom of the laity are equally recognized as authentic sources of truth. They are the three magisteria. And when one considers what Catholic theologians and the Catholic people are thinking and saying about the issue of homosexuality and same-sex relationships, then, at the very least, we have to acknowledge the possibility that the Vatican’s teaching on this issue may not actually be the Catholic teaching. An excellent example of a relatively recent change based on the sense of the faithful is the fact that the vast majority of married Catholics are practicing birth control in spite of the official teaching of the hierarchy. This particular teaching does not make good sense to the Catholic people as it does not fit with their lived experience. I believe we’re seeing the same situation emerging (blossoming, actually) around the issue of homosexuality and gay rights – including gay marriage rights.


Beyond Vatican stenographers

Anyway, I was originally going to devote this post to critiquing the underlying assumptions and ideas of Tad Pacholczyk’s article “'Gay Genes,’ Sexual Attractions, and the Call to Chastity,” but then I realized that I've already done this in a number of previous Wild Reed posts. (See, for example, here, here, here, here and here.)

Instead, I want to offer the best of what Catholic theologians are saying about sexuality. These theologians aren't simply Vatican stenographers, but men and women open to God’s transforming presence throughout the entire church – including within the experiences and insights of the Catholic people.

I begin this series with an excerpt from Daniel Helminiak’s 2004 article “Grace Builds on Nature: A Gay Catholic Theological Response to the Vatican’s Statement on Gay Marriage.” This article was first published in White Crane: A Journal of Gay Spirit, Wisdom and Culture. It was also published as “Gay Marriage: A Response to the Vatican,” chapter 12 of Helminiak’s book Sex and the Sacred: Gay Identity and Spiritual Growth.

I share this and future insights from Catholic theologians and grassroots lay organizations so as to highlight not just the emerging insights on sexuality within the wider church, but the blossoming of such insights. And we know they are blossoming by the fact that they represent what the majority of Catholics in the West accept and believe about issues relating to gender and sexuality, and what increasing numbers of Catholics in other parts of the world are beginning to recognize and accept. I’m thinking in particular of Catholics in Latin America.

Also, as I discovered from Catholics for Marriage Equality MN’s recent presence at the Basilica Block Party, “protesting” those things one may not agree with isn’t always the best course of action. Folks tend to be more open to ideas and insights when they are presented in positive and proactive ways. That’s what this series starting today is all about: a positive and proactive presentation of (perhaps, for some, new) ideas and insights on sexuality that are blossoming beyond the confines of the Roman Catholic hierarchy.

And so without further ado, here is Daniel Helminiak's thoughts and insights on the Vatican's narrow identification of sexuality with procreation.

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The Vatican’s core argument against gay marriage or unions can be stated in an equation: marriage = sex = procreation. The Vatican allows sex only in marriage and ultimately for the sake of procreation, so same-sex marriage cannot qualify. Supposedly, the linkage between these three elements is inviolable, and, supposedly, this linkage expresses the nature of sexual relationship itself. The appeal is to a version of “natural law” built on ancient and medieval speculation. Many others who oppose gay marriage unwittingly buy into this same argument.

Contemporary insight into the nature of human sexuality shows that the Vatican equation is wrong. The Vatican emphasizes the basest dimension of sex: the biological production of offspring; and it devalues the distinctly human dimension of sex: the bonding of hearts and minds in interpersonal relationship. In contrast to all animal species, only humans routinely have sex during infertile periods, only humans routinely have sex face to face, and only human females routinely experience orgasm. These biological facts in themselves point to non-biological facets of human sexuality as the distinctly human ones. In humans sex is first and foremost about personal bonding and only secondarily, incidentally, about the procreation of offspring.

The official Catholic position on this point needs to be challenged outright. It is disturbing to realize that this skewed understanding governs all Catholic teaching about marriage and intimate human relationships. However, this rejection of the official Catholic conclusion is not a rejection of the Catholic presupposition. Natural law remains the basis of this whole discussion. However . . . on the pivotal question, What is the nature of human sexuality? the Vatican is wrong.

Since the Second Vatican Council in the mid 1960s, official Catholicism has weighed the procreative and the interpersonal ("unitive") dimensions of sex equally, but this theoretical equality does not redress the imbalance in the Catholic position in practice. Insistence on procreation defines the Catholic teaching and controls its every practical application, whether to same-sex relationships or any other sexual question. The Vatican champions an understanding of sex as a barnyard-animal affair, and, as is blatant in the document on gay marriage, the Vatican downplays the interpersonal meaning of human sexuality. This position flies in the face of all that personal experience and the human sciences reveal about sexual intimacy.

The position of the Vatican is lucid and consistent, but it is also glaringly mistaken. Yet only it allows the Vatican and the bishops to reject lesbian and gay relationships out of hand. And only it supports the Vatican’s call to secular society to reject gay unions. The Catholic hierarchy is pushing its sectarian agenda and, in the name of a misconceived “nature,” expecting the rest of society to go along.

– Daniel Helminiak
"Gay Marriage: A Response to the Vatican"
Sex and the Sacred: Gay Identity and Spiritual Growth
pp. 154-155



NEXT: Part 2


For more of Daniel Helminiak at The Wild Reed, see:
The Non-Negotiables of Human Sex
In the Garden of Spirituality: Daniel Helminiak
Spirituality and the Gay Experience

See also the related Wild Reed posts:
Stop in the Name of Discriminatory Ideology!
Relationship: The Crucial Factor in Sexual Morality
Responding to Bishop Tobins' Remarks on Gay Marriage
The Many Manifestations of God's Loving Embrace
A "Fruit" Reflects on the Meaning of "Fruitfulness"
Getting It Right
A Wise and Thoughtful Study of Sexual Ethics
The Standard of Sexual Ethics: Human Flourishing, Not Openness to Procreation
Joan Timmerman on the "Wisdom of the Body"
Human Sex: Weird and Silly, Messy and Sublime
Sex as Mystery, Sex as Light (Part 1)
Sex as Mystery, Sex as Light (Part 2)
Making Love, Giving Life
Italian Cardinal Calls for a "New Vision" for Sexuality
A Catholic Statement of Support for Same-Sex Marriage
Tips on Speaking as a Catholic in Support of Marriage Equality

Image: Michael J. Bayly.


Monday, July 18, 2011

Quote of the Day


. . . There are days I despair that these sexually stunted boys masquerading as spiritually evolved adult men will ever grow up. I guess it's going to take some more pressure from the rank and file. The good news is when they finally do start maturing, and accept their own sexuality, they will experience what real freedom truly feels like, and part of that is making real choices, not guilt infected coerced choices.






See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
Keeping All the Queens Under One Roof
Officially Homophobic, Intensely Homoerotic
Homophobia? It's So Gay
What Is It That Ails You?
The Pope's "Scandalous" Stance on Homosexuality
Italian Cardinal Calls for a "New Vision" for Sexuality
An Australian Bishop's "Radical" Call for Reform
Truth Telling: The Greatest of Sins in a Dysfunctional Church
The Real Crisis

Image: "Oh, Sister!" Cardinal Raymond Leo Burke looking lovely in scarlet and lace – and clearly unconcerned that his attire may unwittingly subvert gender-based orthodoxies
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Sunday, July 17, 2011

Saturday, July 16, 2011

Quote of the Day

. . . The conventional — and erroneous — perception of the gay-marriage issue is that it pits secular forces against religious ones. From New York to California, wherever and whenever the battle has flared, news coverage has focused almost entirely on the religious groups who uniformly denounce it: Mormons, Roman Catholics [i.e., the Roman Catholic clerical caste], evangelical Christians and many Hispanic Pentecostals and African-American Protestants.

Yet the passage of same-sex marriage in New York
last month . . . attests to the concerted, sustained efforts by liberal Christian [including Catholics] and Jewish clergy to advocate for it in the language of faith, to counter the language of morality voiced by foes. In so doing, they provided a kind of political and theological cover to the moderate and conservative state senators who cast the vital swing votes for a 33-to-29 margin.

– Samuel G. Freedman
"How Clergy Helped a Same-Sex Marriage Law Pass"
New York Times
July 15, 2011


Friday, July 15, 2011

God is in the roses


. . . and the thorns.

As many of you know, I often share music here at The Wild Reed on Friday evenings. Tonight I share Rosanne Cash's beautiful song "God Is In the Roses," from her 2006 album Black Cadillac. Writing and recording this album was quite the cathartic experience for Rosanne, who, at the time, was coming to terms with the deaths of her father, mother and step-mother – all in the space of two years.




I dedicate my sharing of "God Is In the Roses" to
my friend and colleague David McCaffrey (pictured at right in August 2009), whose funeral Mass took place earlier today at St. Stanislaus Catholic Church in St. Paul. The sharing of this song is followed by thoughts and images from this very special gathering that remembered and celebrated David's life and legacy.







God is in the roses,
the petals and the thorns;
storms out on the oceans,
the souls who will be born.
And every drop of rain that falls,
falls for those who mourn.
God is in the roses
. . . and the thorns.

The sun is on the cemetery,
leaves are on the stones.
There never was a place on earth
that felt so much like home.
We're falling like the velvet petals,
we're bleeding and we're torn.
But God is in the roses
. . . and the thorns.

. . . My whole world fits inside the moment,
I saw you be reborn.
God is in the roses,
and that day was filled with roses.
God is in the roses
. . . and the thorns.






Following is the eulogy that David's partner of 13-and-a-half years, Michael Douglas (pictured with David at left in July 2009), shared at the beginning of the Mass.


What can I say about Davey Joe? We met just as I was beginning sub-specialty training at the University of Minnesota fourteen years ago. For him it was the perfect time for a relationship that – to David – seemed perfectly serendipitous. You see, he was in the same situation I find myself at this very moment – overcoming the loss of his most cherished loved one (in this case, his mother who died just a few months before I moved to Minnesota). Everything about David seemed to be dictated by fate, as he would say – and our meeting at a Family Practice Department social, set the stage for a bond that would only continue to strengthen. Although his passing was sudden, it by no means eclipses or truncates his influence on so many people. His soul will live on.

David was so much more than a friend. More than a partner. More than a husband. He was the kind of person who could simply brighten, enlighten, and enliven any environment he inhabited. He just had that positive energy that made even the most curmudgeonly among us capitulate with happiness in his presence. This quality conjures up a wonderful memory: when he first met my parents, he knew the only way to allay any immediate insecurities he felt they would be having at the potentially awkward moment of formal introduction, was through humor. When my mother asked how we met, I think that he sensed major unease on her part – and simply responded: "Oh, Mrs. Douglas, no need to worry; I didn't rob from the cradle. Michael robbed from the grave." Needless to say, I don't remember that going over too well. But, it was just another way in which David would ingratiate himself toward others – a quality as effortless as his infectious personality.

David left his mark in life in so many deliberate ways. His tireless efforts at social justice within and outside of the Catholic church are legion to the Twin Cities' history of pioneering social activism. Ask anyone with a hand in the advancement of lesbian and gay rights in Minnesota, and he or she will tell you David was an essential element in that movement – establishing a legacy that inspires others in his footsteps more than 30 years later. David also lent his considerable talents to under-served racial minorities, freeing them from lives of certain societal exile.

These qualities are the ones most will remember about David Joseph McCaffrey. The qualities that I'll always cherish, however, are the ones that attracted me to him in the first place. His smile, fundamental generosity toward others, and overall blissful attitude toward life are at the top of that list. David is the most selfless, generous, magnanimous person I have ever met. It certainly makes his passing that much more difficult. But, with the inevitable grief that comes with his departure from this earth, comes the security in knowing that I will always hold his soul squarely in my heart. And for that, I am eternally grateful.

Thank you.





Above: Without doubt it was a very beautiful funeral Mass, one that embodied the very best of the Catholic tradition. The homily was especially powerful and reflected the liberating compassion of Jesus like few others I've heard.



Above: The parish choir in which David had shared the beautiful gift of his singing voice.



Above and below: After the funeral Mass, the remembering and celebrating of David's life and legacy continued downstairs in the church hall.



Above: Jim, Kathleen and Tom.


Left: Seated at left with (from left) Phil, Paul, Mike, Mary Lynn and Ed.







Right: Aimee and Craig.







Above: Ed, Randi and Phil.



Above: Undre, Justin and Maria.



Above: A number of David's fellow parishioners. They were so welcoming of all who attended his funeral Mass.



Above: Alice, Donna and Roger.



Above: Members of David's family, including his brother Richard, second from right.



I close this post with a lovely poem by Amelia Burr. It's a poem that beautifully captures David's wise, generous and hopeful spirit. Thank you, David, for sharing that spirit and inspiring its blossoming within so many of us.



A Song of Living

Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.

I have sent up my gladness on wings, to be lost in the blue of the sky.
I have run and leaped with the rain, I have taken the wind to my breast.
My cheeks like a drowsy child to the face of the earth I have pressed.
Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.

I have kissed young love on the lips, I have heard his song to the end,
I have struck my hand like a seal in the loyal hand of a friend.
I have known the peace of heaven, the comfort of work done well.
I have longed for death in the darkness and risen alive out of hell.
Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.

I gave a share of my soul to the world, when and where my course is run.
I know that another shall finish the task I surely must leave undone.
I know that no flower, nor flint was in vain on the path I trod.
As one looks on a face through a window, through life I have looked on God,
Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.

– Amelia Burr
American poet (1878 - 1968)



See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
Sad News
"I Have Never Felt Closer to Anyone in My Entire Life Than to David"

Recommended Off-site Link:
Remembering David McCaffrey
– Mary Lynn Murphy (The Progressive Catholic Voice, July 12, 2011).

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

"I Have Never Felt Closer to Anyone in My Entire Life Than to David"


Michael Douglas eulogizes his husband of 13 years, David McCaffrey,
co-founder of the Twin Cities-based Catholic Pastoral Committee on
Sexual Minorities. David died late Saturday night after a short illness.



Just as much as it pains me to write these words, I also feel a wonderful sense of awakening. I appreciate all of the kind words that readers of The Wild Reed continue to post about my partner of over 13 years, David Joseph McCaffrey.

From the moment we met, I knew that we shared a relationship that seemed destined to occur – in spite of our 21-year age difference. David's passing was, indeed, unexpected – leaving me with an initial sense of aimlessness and loneliness. I suppose this is a natural response to the loss of a spouse, but it was the first time that I had ever experienced such an emotional trauma. I have never felt closer to anyone in my entire life than to David. The emotional and physical bonds we shared for more than a decade continued to grow stronger and richer each and every day right up to the moment of his passing. I now know what it feels like to lose such a bond.

As a husband and a physician, I cherished the role of nurturer, provider, and protector for David. He returned his love and selflessness in ways that I cannot quantify. Many times over the course of the past 13 years I had to pinch myself – as I knew I was the luckiest man on earth to have such a gentle, caring, charitable, fulsome soul to call my husband. I know that many of the well-wishers reading this blog experienced these qualities, as David touched so many lives through his advocacy and stewardship of others, including many racial and sexual minorities.

As I write this post, it is, unmistakably, a very difficult time for me. But the continued kind words of support from many I consider friends having met through David, I know that I will remain strong and emerge from his loss with a new found gain for life, charity toward others, and a renewed spirit and sense of worth. David possessed and effortlessly applied all of these qualities, as if he was placed here on this earth to carry them out. I know that the lives he touched, including mine, have been forever positively affected through his actions. I will cherish that quality, as well as strive to attain it, for the rest of my life.

Thank you, David. Thank you for your loving, caring soul. I will always carry yours in my heart.


– Michael Douglas


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David's funeral arrangements:


Visitation: 4:00-8:00 p.m., Thursday, July 14, 2011 – Bradshaw Funeral Home, 1078 Rice St., Saint Paul.

Funeral/Memorial: 11 a.m., Friday, July 15, 2011 at the Church of St. Stanislaus, 398 Superior St. & West 7th St., Saint Paul.





Recommended Off-site Link:
Remembering David McCaffrey – Mary Lynn Murphy (
The Progressive Catholic Voice, July 12, 2011).

See also the previous Wild Reed post:
Sad News – Michael Bayly (
The Wild Reed, July 10, 2011).

Sunday, July 10, 2011

Sad News

Dear friends,

It is with great sadness that I share with you the news of the death of David McCaffrey, co-founder and president of the Catholic Pastoral Committee on Sexual Minorities (CPCSM), co-convener of Catholics for Marriage Equality MN, and a dear friend and colleague.

David died suddenly but peacefully late last night – Saturday, July 9 – after a very short illness.

I’m sure you will join with me in extending deepest condolences to his beloved partner of 13 years, Michael Douglas.

David was a tireless advocate for LGBT Catholics and an incredibly caring and generous individual. His compassion and commitment to justice and to the Good News of liberation for the marginalized and oppressed will be missed by many, as will be his dedication to the Catholic LGBT community, his humor, and his warm and welcoming smile.

Last year at the Catholic Coalition for Church Reform’s Synod of the Baptized, David was a recipient of the Adsum Award. Adsum is a Latin word which means “I am present and listening.” Whenever the participants in Vatican II were gathered at St. Peter's Basilica their traditional prayer was the exclamation: adsumus – “we are present and listening.” The Adsum Award recognizes those individuals who are known within the local church for having committed to being present and attentive to the Spirit. Accordingly, they have served as partners with the Spirit in re-creating the face of the church in the Archdiocese of St. Paul-Minneapolis.

David was a worthy recipient of this award. He was one of six co-founders of the Catholic Pastoral Committee on Sexual Minorities (CPCSM), an organization that has worked since 1980 within the Archdiocese of St. Paul-Minneapolis for the equality and dignity of LGBT individuals and their families. For David's recollections of the founding of CPCSM, click here.

In the 1980's, David played a crucial role in CPCSM's groundbreaking Needs Assessment Survey of local LGBT Catholics. He was also the executive producer of CPCSM's 1988 video, Silent Journeys of Faith, and the editor of its companion guidebook. Both resources were major components in CPCSM's training workshops given to pastoral and social justice professionals of 25 parishes throughout the archdiocese. In the 1990's, David played a major role in the development and implementation of CPCSM's Safe Staff Training Initiative, which provided sensitivity training around LGBT issues to the educational leadership of the archdiocese and to administrators and faculties of eight of the high schools of the archdiocese. More recently, he took an invaluable leadership role in Catholics for Marriage Equality MN. He was also an active member in his faith community of the parish of St. Stanislaus in St. Paul.

As I assist David's partner with funeral arrangements and work with others on CPCSM-related matters, I'll be taking a break from blogging. Thank you for your prayers of support and your understanding.

And, David, I know you are enveloped in God's transforming love. Rest now, my friend. And thank you for all the wisdom and love you've shared with me and so many others during your time with us.

Peace,


Michael



I envision and work to create a Church that is open and responsive to the needs and gifts of all its members; a Church that is meaningful and nurturing of all, and one that recognizes the equal status of all.

– David J. McCaffrey
1947 – 2011



Above: With David and our friend Paul – December 2010.




Above: David with (from left) Sheila Nelson, CALGM president and Myrna Ohmann, Catholic Rainbow Parents co-founder – February 26, 2011.



Above: David with Kathleen Olsen, leading the singing of "We Shall Overcome" at the Cathedral of St. Paul – October 31, 2010. Approximately 150 people gathered at the Cathedral that day in loving opposition to the MN bishops’ campaign of intolerance and discrimination against the LGBT citizens of Minnesota. For more images and commentary, click here.



Above: David with Mary Beckfeld, the recipient of CPCSM’s 2008 Father Henry F. LeMay Pastoral Ministry Award – June 23, 2008.



Above: A meeting of The Progressive Catholic Voice planning team – August 2007. From left: Beverly Barrett , Mary Lynn Murphy, Paul Fleege, Gerry Sell, Susan Kramp, Mary Beckfeld, David McCaffrey, Rick Notch, and Paula Ruddy.



Above: David with my parents during their visit to the Twin Cities in the summer of 2005.



Above: David with longtime CPCSM supporter Theresa O’Brien – January 26, 2008.



Above: With David and Catholic feminist theologian Mary Hunt – February 2006.



Above: From left: Michael and David, Aimee, myself, and Mary Lynn at Twin Cities Gay Pride 2007.



Above: David and his partner Michael – December 2009.




Above: The last photo of David, taken last month at Twin Cities Gay Pride. From left: Rick, David, Paul and me.


See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
CPCSM Co-Founder Responds to "Not Catholic" Assertion
History Matters
Far from "Innocuous" (David's response to Stephen’s Heaney’s defense of Archbishop Nienstedt’s “innocuous” statements on homosexuality)
CPCSM and the Archdiocese of St. Paul-Minneapolis (Part 1)
CPCSM and the Archdiocese of St. Paul-Minneapolis (Part 2)
CPCSM and the Archdiocese of St. Paul-Minneapolis (Part 3)
CPCSM and the Archdiocese of St. Paul-Minneapolis (Part 4)


Saturday, July 09, 2011

Quote of the Day

Note: Truth Wins Out activist John Becker (pictured at right) recently took a hidden camera with him to five therapy sessions at a Christian counseling center run by Marcus Bachmann, husband of Republican presidential candidate Michele Bachmann.

. . . At the start of our second session I went straight to the point: what could I do? Would I ever be able to be completely rid of homosexuality, or merely learn to cope with and manage it? [Clinic counselor Timothy] Wiertzema’s response was that it’s situational. Some people have been able to get rid of it completely over a long time period, others over a shorter time period. Still others are able to get it to “subside,” down to a “manageable” level, but it’s still there in the background. He asked me, “Are you okay with knowing that it might take awhile, and that it might not . . . maybe not happen at all? . . . Obviously, it’s not okay, in a way, but . . .” I said that I wanted to give it a go, that it was better to try than to not try.

Interestingly, this exchange was the only time during all of my sessions at Bachmann & Associates that Wiertzema or anyone else ever brought up the risk of this treatment failing. In later sessions he would say that he “. . .think[s] it’s possible to be totally free of [same-sex attraction]. For sure.” and that “It’s happened! It really has happened to people.” I was never told that every professional medical and mental health association rejects “ex-gay” therapy including the American Medical Association, American Psychological Association, American Psychiatric Association, and the American Counseling Association, or that the treatment I was seeking was totally unsupported by research. I was never informed about possible alternative treatment options such as gay-affirmative therapy. Nobody ever told me about the potential for harmful side effects like depression and suicidal thoughts. And although I was asked to sign a treatment plan outlining my problem, desired outcome, and treatment strategy, I was never given nor asked to sign any kind of informed consent document that disclosed the above information about “ex-gay” therapy. As such, I believe Bachmann & Associates to be practicing unethically, even by the standards of the American Association of Christian Counselors. This is particularly disconcerting given the fact that Marcus Bachmann’s clinic has received significant funding from the State of Minnesota and the federal government. . . .


– John Becker
"How I Went Undercover at Bachmann's Clinic"
The Advocate
July 9, 2011


Above: Michele and Marcus Bachmann.


See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
It's Official: APA Opposes "Reparative Therapy"
The Continuum Just Shrank
When Quackery Goes Mainstream
Gay Catholics, Courage and Reparative Therapy
Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Courage
Notes from the "Laughable But Tragic" World of Courage
John Townsend Responds to His Critics
The Cowardice of Courage
"Conversion Therapy" and the Pseudo-Science of NARTH
Debunking NARTH (Part 1)
Debunking NARTH (Part 2)
The Many Manifestations of God's Loving Embrace


Friday, July 08, 2011

Sharing the Good News of Marriage Equality at the Basilica Block Party

Updated with images from Saturday night!


Earlier this evening I joined with a number of other members of Catholics for Marriage Equality MN to distribute "I support marriage equality" stickers to attendees at this weekend's Basilica of St. Mary Block Party.

It was a great experience, with the vast majority of those arriving at the Basilica for the event expressing support and gratitude for our presence, and being more than willing to wear one of our stickers.

We distributed two-and-a-half thousand stickers, and will be back tomorrow evening with more!

At around 7:00 p.m., a member of singer/songwriter Michael Franti's entourage approached us and invited my friend Joan and I to meet Michael and be interviewed by him in his tour bus for his website. Earlier in the evening I was interviewed by the Twin Cities' Fox 9 News.

All in all, in was a very positive and productive evening, with our marriage equality message at the Basilica being widely welcomed and supported.


Above: John and Paula with the Catholics for Marriage Equality MN banner.


Following is the media release that Catholics for Marriage Equality MN disseminated earlier today. It explains why we are present at this weekend's Basilica Block Party .

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Pro-marriage equality Catholics
to welcome Basilica Block Party attendees


Members and friends of Catholics for Marriage Equality MN will be at the entrance of the Basilica of St. Mary’s Block Party on both Friday and Saturday evenings (5:00-9:00) of this weekend, distributing "I support marriage equality" stickers to attendees.

The group also plans to display signs with messages such as: "Let's rock for marriage equality" and "Let's party as if we already have marriage equality."

“As pro-marriage equality Catholics we'll welcome attendees and invite them to help turn the block party into a pro-marriage equality event,” said Catholics for Marriage Equality MN co-convener Michael Bayly. “We’ve heard that a number of performers have already said they'll be speaking out for marriage equality from the stage – which is truly good news.”

One such performer is Michael Franti who released a statement on his website saying: “I feel that I can best make a difference by living up to my commitment to perform and to use my music and the stage that I have been given to speak out in support of same sex marriage. I encourage all in attendance (and those who are not) to get out and vote against the anti-gay marriage amendment.”

According to the Public Religion Research Institute (PRRI), Catholics are more supportive of same-sex marriage and other gay rights than other American Christians, yet the Minnesota Catholic Conference of Bishops is spending millions of dollars in support of the upcoming ballot measure that could potentially amend the State Constitution to ban civil marriage for same-sex couples – despite the fact that same-sex marriage is already illegal in the state.

Earlier, there had been calls to boycott the Basilica Block Party because of the anti-gay and anti-marriage equality activism of the bishops.

“This didn’t seem to us to be the best course of action,” said Bayly. “We know that many members of the Basilica community support marriage equality – as do the vast majority of the young people who will be attending the block party. So we decided to ask them to help make the party a pro-marriage equality event. And I think that’s what it will be.”

Below are some photos I took earlier this evening at the Basilica Block Party. Enjoy!



Above: My friend Paula conversing with Block Party attendees.



Above: Friends Obie and Javen came for the party but also spent time helping distribute stickers. Thanks, guys!



Above: Basilica party-goers happy to display their "I support marriage equality" stickers!

Notes the Star Tribune in its coverage of the Block Party:

Boasting a cooler-than-average lineup, the 17th annual rock 'n' roll 'n' beer bash outside the Basilica of St. Mary in downtown Minneapolis suffered hellfire heat at first. The 25-page program has never been more useful than as fans during early sets by hot newcomers Lissie and Fitz & The Tantrums.

"I never take off my jacket," Fitz & The Tantrums' stylish frontman Michael Fitzpatrick said on stage, "but Minneapolis, you just broke me."

Things were also more heated than usual outside the gates. A small contingent of gay rights supporters handed out stickers and carried signs to protest the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis' support of a constitutional amendment banning gay marriage. [Actually, none of our signs were "protest" signs.]


"Let's party as if we already have marriage equality," read one of the signs belonging to Catholics for Marriage Equality, whose stickers ("I support marriage equality") were plastered all over concertgoers. Co-founder Michael Bayly said his group did not want to discourage people from attending. "We want people to feel welcome and know that there are many, many Catholics who believe in equality," Bayly said . . .



Above: Brian McNeill of Dignity Twin Cities helps distribute pro-marriage equality stickers to attendees of the Basilica of St. Mary Block Party.



Above and below: Supporters of marriage equality at this weekend's Basilica Block Party.

Our hope was that if enough folks were wearing our "I support marriage equality" stickers, a supportive "buzz" about the issue would be created. From everything I've heard, that indeed happened.

For instance, not long after we started distributing stickers, people started coming up to us and requesting them. Others asked us to pass sheets of them through the fence so that attendees already inside could get one. Also, we soon noticed that many of the Block Party staff were wearing them.








Above: With my friend Joan and Basilica Block Party headliner Michael Franti.

Notes Wikipedia:

Michael Franti is an American poet, musician, and composer. He is the creator and lead vocalist of Michael Franti & Spearhead, a band that blends hip hop with a variety of other styles including funk, reggae, jazz, folk, and rock. He is also an outspoken supporter for a wide spectrum of peace and social justice issues.


Strange as it may sound, one of the first things I did upon meeting Michael in his tour bus was to check if he was wearing shoes! He wasn't, and here's why:

In 2000, Franti decided not to wear any shoes, initially for three days. Since then, Franti has been walking through life barefoot except for occasionally wearing flip-flops as required to board an airplane or to be served in a restaurant. Franti prefers to go barefoot.


As noted in our media release, Michael Franti is an outspoken supporter of marriage equality. Accordingly, he was keen to meet some of us present at the Block Party sharing a pro-marriage equality message. I must say it was an honor to meet him and be interviewed by him for a segment to be featured on his website.

Later, Michael met with members of OutFront Minnesota and pledged his support to them. Other artists who performed tonight at the Block Party also voiced support for marriage equality, with local band The Jayhawks dedicating a new song, "Hide Your Colors," to "free choice in marriage." According to the Star Tribune, Illinois songstress Lissie drew cheers when she said, "It's really not anyone's business how people choose to love one another. Love is always a good thing."

Amen!

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UPDATE: 11:00 p.m., Saturday, July 9, 2011



Earlier this evening members of Catholics for Marriage Equality MN had another enjoyable and encouraging experience distributing "I support marriage equality" stickers to Basilica Block Party attendees.

Many attendees had either been there the night before or had heard about us as they actively sought us out for stickers! As I said, it was very encouraging – as was the fact that this particular event is very much a straight event, and yet the responses we received were overwhelmingly supportive of civil marriage rights for same-sex couples.



Following are some more images of Catholics for Marriage Equality MN's presence at the Basilica of St. Mary Block Party this evening. Enjoy!



Above: My friend Kathleen with a clipboard full of stickers!



Above: This guy wanted to show his support for marriage equality in both front and back!



Above and below: Sticker, anyone?




Above: These guys and girls were more than happy to show their support for marriage equality.



Above: The guy on the left watched Fox 9 News last night and made a point of coming up to me today to congratulate and thank me for what I said in the broadcast's segment on Catholics for Marriage Equality MN's presence yesterday at the Block Party. He and his friend are straight and totally supportive of both marriage equality and our proactive and positive presence at the Basilica. Gotta love those straight guy allies!



Above: I love this photo! And my friend Paula later shared with me that the sight of this family and others wearing our stickers filled her with hope for the future.



Above: These guy were visiting the Twin Cities from the Navajo Nation.



Above and below: More Basilica Block Party attendees happy to show their support for marriage equality.






See also the related Wild Reed posts:
In the Struggle for Marriage Equality, MN Catholics are Making a Difference by Changing Hearts and Minds
A Catholic Statement of Support for Same-Sex Marriage
Tips on Speaking as a Catholic in Support of Marriage Equality
Catholic Attitudes on Gay and Lesbian Issues: An Overview
At UST, a Rousing and Very Catholic Show of Support for Marriage Equality
A Message for NOM (and the Catholic Hierarchy
Distinguishing Between Roman Catholic Theology and Civil Law in the Struggle for Marriage Equality
The Bishops' Reaction to Marriage Equality: "Wrong-Headed and Counterproductive"
Responding to Bishop Tobin's Remarks on Gay Marriage
Dale Carpenter on the "Win-Win" Reality of Gay Marriage
The Minnesota Bishops' Last Ditch Effort
It's a Scandal
The Minnesota Bishops' Unholy War
Exposing NOM's Shameful Behavior in Minnesota
Winona Daily News Calls Proposed Marriage Amendment "Bigoted" and "Malicious"
Law Professor: Marriage Amendment is Divisive and Mean-Spirited
Opposition to the Marriage Amendment Grows


Images: Michael J. Bayly.