Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Just Imagine . . .

Have you ever noticed that in these contemporary, relatively “gay-friendly” times, it’s rarely gay men who are open and at peace with their sexuality that are busted for “public lewdness,” but, more often than not, those who are self-hating and closeted?

Now what message should we take from this observation, I wonder?

Case in point: In a recent police sting in New York State, aimed at men who cruise for gay sex, all twenty arrested were actually married men – with the exception of the one who was a Catholic priest.


BEDFORD – A sting aimed at men who cruise a rest area off Interstate 684 for gay sex resulted in charges against 20 men in the past month, including a Catholic priest and a registered sex offender.

Most of the men were charged with either loitering or trespass violations or both. One was charged with forcible touching, a misdemeanor. Four were charged with exposing themselves and two with public lewdness, all violations. The 20 suspects are due in Bedford Town Court on Thursday.

Among those arrested was the Rev. Gary Mead, a Catholic priest from Millwood assigned to St. Gregory Barbarigo parish in Garnerville. Police said he fondled an undercover officer and was charged with forcible touching.

Mead, 44, was previously assigned to St. Mary’s Church in Wappingers Falls and, in the late 1990s, was parochial vicar at Holy Family parish in New Rochelle. A message left yesterday with the Archdiocese of New York was not immediately returned.

With the exception of Mead, all of those charged are married, police said.

The sting, which also netted a local Rotary Club president and a 72-year-old man, was prompted by a complaint from a man who stopped to use the rest area with his 10-year-old son, said Capt. Robert Meyer, state police commander in Westchester County.

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Official elements within the Roman Catholic Church, of course, actively encourage the self-loathing and closetedness that drives some to promiscuous behavior.

How is this so?, you may well ask. Well, as Thomas Stevenson notes in his book,
Sons of the Church: The Witnessing of Gay Catholic Men, many gay men have been “inflicted [by the Church] with a wound of feeling unlovable around their homosexuality.”

One result of this “wounding,” continues Stevenson, is an attraction to “impersonal forms of sexual relating.” This problem, he insists, could and should be addressed by the Church as a social justice issue.

Stevenson goes on to envision the following:

Just imagine how different things might be if, for example, Catholic parishes and schools affirmed the goodness and lovability of people in their homosexuality. Not just religion and parochial education, but laws, public schools, and popular culture could all evolve – or perhaps continue to evolve, since in some respects they already have – in ways that would heal the wound of feeling unlovable and open the lives of homosexual people to more personal forms of relating. And given the naturalness, goodness, and lovability of homosexuality, it is the right of gay people to expect justice.

Recommended Off-site Link:
The Political Closet by Tom Scharbach.

See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
The Tragedy of Homophobia
Hypocrisy, Ignorance, Promiscuity, and the “Love that is the Center of Catholic Christianity”
What Is It That Ails You?
Be Not Afraid: You Can Be Happy and Gay
A Humorous Look at Internalized Homophobia


Anonymous said...

I think perhaps we are overlooking a fact in all these "gay outings." It's called "bisexuality."

Because of the Queer Agenda, many bisexuals have gone into hiding and clandestine sexual liaisons. The theory that one is gay OR straight is belied by GLBT. We seem to have forgotten the "B."

I'll be posting on this very subject under Why Gay Became Queer.

Terry Nelson said...

Gay Species has a good point - we never hear much about bi-sexuals.

Michael, Just to be fair, over the years I have worked with, and had several people who worked for me, who happened to be out with their sexuality - they talked about it openly. Not all were in relationships either, yet they loved the "tea room sex".

These men were definitely not closeted - they just liked the novelty of public, slam, bam, thank you man, sex. I suspected the fascination had a great deal to do with voyeurism/exhibitionism - which plays a role in sexual addiction.

Although, as you say - it is interesting how many otherwise 'respectable' men take advatage of the opportunity. Accessibility and convenience also seems to play a role, over and above shame. Heterosexuals like 'dirty, secret sex' too, which is one reason why prostitution has always been popular.

Just adding to the discussion here.