Friday, December 19, 2008

John McNeill's Message to the US Bishops: "Enough!"

In his recent open letter to the Roman Catholic Bishops of the U.S., author, theologian, psychotherapist, and former priest John J. McNeill contends that as a result of their unwillingness to dialogue with gay and lesbian Catholics, nothing less than the bishops’ moral authority is at stake.

Writes McNeill: “The [bishops’] ignorance and distortion of homosexuality, the use of stereotypes and falsehoods in official Church documents, forces us who are gay Catholics to issue the institutional Church a serious warning. Your ignorance of homosexuality can no longer be excused as inculpable; it has become of necessity a deliberate and malicious ignorance. In the name of Catholic gays and lesbians everywhere, we cry out 'Enough!’”

McNeill also poses a fundamental question that I know many Catholics, regardless of sexual orientation, wrestle with: “What kind of faith and trust can I place in a teaching authority that clearly acts in an unloving, hateful and destructive way toward . . . gay [people] and is more interested in defending its institutional interest than it is in truth and justice?”

Following is the full text of John McNeill’s letter (with thanks to Joseph O’Leary who first posted it on his blogsite, Joseph S. O’Leary: Essays on Literary and Theological Themes.


An Open Letter to the American Bishops
on the Issue of Homosexuality

In 1974, the delegates of Dignity’s first national convention requested in a letter, that a dialogue be opened between the American bishops and the members of the Catholic gay and lesbian community. With very few exceptions that letter was ignored.

Now, nearly thirty years later, once again I call upon the American bishops to open that dialogue.

For over thirty years, I have ministered as priest and psychotherapist to lesbians and gays. I helped found Dignity New York to provide a safe and loving community within the Catholic Church for gay people. This June will mark the twenty-fifth year I have given retreats for lesbians and gays, at Kirkridge, an ecumenical retreat center.

I have written three books on gay spirituality: The Church and the Homosexual, Taking a Chance on God, and Freedom, Glorious Freedom. I also published an autobiography on my own spiritual journey as a gay priest. As a result of my experience, I have come to the conclusion that what is at stake at this point in time is not only the spiritual and psychological health of many gay and lesbian Catholics and other lesbian and gay Christians. What is at stake is your moral authority to teach on this issue.

In the past, when you undertook a listening process to hear what the Holy Spirit was saying through the People of God, you won our respect. We respected you when you made your statements on the economy, on nuclear warfare and, especially, your aborted effort to draw up a letter on the role of women in the Church. You listened carefully to what women had to say and, and drew up your statements responding to what you heard from women. These actions gave us gay and lesbians reason to hope that the Holy Spirit would lead you into a spirit of willingness to listen to us gay and lesbian Catholics.

What is at stake now is your own moral authority! Unless we gay and lesbian Catholics receive the message that you take us seriously and are willing to listen carefully to what the Holy Spirit is saying to you through our lives and our experience, your judgments on homosexuality will be, for the most part, ignored and you will lose what authority you have left to deserve to be listened to with respect on this issue.

I have never heard the same level of courage from the American Bishops in dealing with the Vatican as that shown by the Major Superiors of Religious Men in response to the egregious document issued by the Congregation for the Defense of the Faith, entitled, “Some Considerations Concerning Homosexual Persons.” [NOTE: It’s actually not clear to which document McNeill is referring. It could be either the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith’s 2003 document, Considerations Regarding Proposals to Give Legal Recognition to Unions Between Homosexual Persons, or its 2005 document, Criteria for the Discernment of Vocations with Regard to Persons with Homosexual Tendencies in View of Their Admission to the Seminary and to Holy Orders. Then again, McNeill may be referring to the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops statement, Ministry to Persons with a Homosexual Inclination:
Guidelines for Pastoral Care

[The Major Superiors of Religious Men write:] “We view (this document) as a hindrance to the Church leaders of the United States in this most difficult and sensitive area of human living. . . . We are shocked that the statement calls for discrimination against gay men and lesbian women. We find the reasoning for supporting such discrimination to be strained, unconvincing and counterproductive to our statements and actions to support the pastoral needs and personal dignity of such persons. Far from a help to the Bishops and other religious leaders in the United States Catholic Church, the statement complicates our already complex ministry to all people.

“Moreover we find the arguments used to justify discrimination based on stereotypes and falsehoods that are out of touch with modern psychological and sociological understandings of human sexuality. We regret such actions by the CDF and we reaffirm our support for the human rights of all our brothers and sisters.”

As a gay Catholic theologian and psychotherapist, I am fully aware of the enormous destruction recent Vatican documents have caused in the psychic life of young Catholic gays, and of the violence they will provoke against all gay people. I find myself in a dilemma: what kind of faith and trust can I place in a teaching authority that I see clearly acts in an unloving, hateful and destructive way toward my gay family and is more interested in defending its institutional interest than it is in truth and justice?

In the name of the thousands of gay and lesbian Catholics and other Christians to whom it has been my God-given privilege to minister, I make this statement:

At this point, the ignorance and distortion of homosexuality, the use of stereotypes and falsehoods in official Church documents, forces us who are gay Catholics to issue the institutional Church a serious warning. Your ignorance of homosexuality can no longer be excused as inculpable; it has become of necessity a deliberate and malicious ignorance. In the name of Catholic gays and lesbians everywhere, we cry out “Enough!”

Enough! Enough of your distortions of Scripture. You continue to claim that a loving homosexual act in a committed relationship is condemned in Scripture, when competent scholars are nearly unanimous in acknowledging that nowhere in Scripture is the problem of sexual acts between two gay men or lesbian women who love each other, ever dealt with, never mind condemned. You must listen to biblical scholars to find out what Scripture truly has to say about homosexual relationships.

Enough! Enough of your efforts to reduce all homosexual acts to expressions of lust, and your refusal to see them as possible expressions of a deep and genuine human love. The second group you must listen to are competent professional psychiatrists and psychotherapists from whom you can learn about the healthy and positive nature of mature gay and lesbian relationships. They will assure you that homosexual orientation is both unchosen and unchangeable and that any ministry promising to change that orientation is a fraud.

Enough! Enough of your efforts through groups like Courage and other exgay ministries to lead young gays to internalize self-hatred with the result that they are able to relate to God only as a God of fear, shame and guilt and lose all hope in a God of mercy and love. What is bad psychology has to be bad theology!

Enough! Enough again, of your efforts to foster hatred, violence, discrimination and rejection of us in the human community. We gay and lesbian Catholics pray daily that the Holy Spirit will lead you into a spirit of repentance. You must publicly accept your share of the blame for gay murders and bashing and so many suicides of young gays and ask forgiveness from God and from the gay community.

Enough, also, of driving us from the home of our mother, the Church, and attempting to deny us the fullness of human intimacy and sexual love. You frequently base that denial by an appeal to the dead letter of the “natural law.” Another group to whom you must listen are the moral theologians who, as a majority, argue that natural law is no longer an adequate basis for dealing with sexual questions. They must be dealt with within the context of interpersonal human relationships.

Above all else, you must enter into dialogue with the gay and lesbian members of the Catholic community. We are the ones living out the human experience of a gay orientation, so we alone can discern directly in our experience what God’s spirit is saying to us.

And for the first time in history you have gay and lesbian Catholic communities of worship and prayer who are seeking individually and collectively to hear what the Spirit is saying to them in their gay experience - what experiences lead to the peace and joy of oneness with the Spirit of God and what experiences lead away from that peace and joy!

God gave you the commission of discerning the truth. But there is no mandate from Jesus Christ to “create” the truth. We pray daily that the Holy Spirit will lead you to search humbly for the truth concerning homosexuality through dialogue with your lesbian sisters and gay brothers.

The only consolation I can offer gay and lesbian Catholics in the meantime is the profound hope that the very absurdity and hateful spirit of recent Vatican documents will lead gay Catholics to refuse them and recognize the contradiction of their message and that of Jesus who never once spoke a negative word concerning homosexuals.

I work, hope and pray that lesbian and gay Catholics and other gay Christians will exercise their legitimate freedom of conscience, discerning what God is saying to them directly through their gay experience. I hope, too, that they will be able to de-fang the poisons of pathologically homophobic religion, accepting the good news that God loves them and accepts them as gays and lesbians and refusing to be caught in the vortex of self-hatred vis-à-vis a God of fear.

I believe that we are at the moment of a special “kairos” in this matter. The Holy Spirit is “doing something new.” I was recently the guest at a gay ecumenical community that established homes for adult retarded people in the city of Basel in Switzerland. The extraordinary spirit of love and compassion that permeated that community was a foretaste of what lies in the future. I believe there is a vast reservoir of human and divine love that has remained until now untapped because of prejudice and homophobia. The Spirit is calling on you to help release that vast potential of human and divine love through your action sat this national conference.

Please be assured that the actions of Soulforce and Dignity at your national conference are based in profound respect and love. We pray and hope that the same Holy Spirit who has graciously liberated us who are gay to self-respect and self-love will liberate in you, our Catholic leaders, a profound love for your gay brothers and lesbian sisters and melt away all prejudice and judgmentalism in your hearts. May you make us welcome as full members in your family in Christ.

May God bless your efforts!

Sincerely in Christ
John J. McNeill

See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
From Rome to Minneapolis, Dialogue is What’s Needed
No Place for Dialogue in Archdiocesan Newspaper
A Catholic Presence at Gay Pride
To Whom the Future of the Catholic Church Belongs
Our Catholic “Stonewall Moment”
Truth Telling: The Greatest of Sins in a Dysfuctional Church
What Is It That Ails You?
When “Guidelines” Lack Guidance
Be Not Afraid, You Can Be Happy and Gay
The Bishops’ “Guidelines”: A Parent’s Response
Homosexuality and the Priesthood
Beyond Courage


kevin57 said...

Fr. McNeill's writings were critical in my own coming to acceptance and coming out as a gay priest. He has been persecuted for righteousness sake and will have his reward in heaven.

While I don't disagree with his open letter, I'm too cynical to believe it's going to move a single bishop to make even the slightest gesture towards gays. I also would say to my brother John that he's behind the curve ball. Integrated Gays have already dismissed the hierarchy as a voice worth listening to. I think the moment he is talking about for greater openness ended a good decade ago. The latest salvo from the Vatican, joining with hateful Islamic States, on the UN Resolution only cements what every homosexual man and woman knows about the fear and loathing are in the hearts of Vatican bureaucrats.

Frank Partisan said...

I think your post is saying that gay Catholics, are more willing to make direct demands on the hierarchy. Otherwise there is no new news. The church leaders have been unmoved in centuries.

Anonymous said...

Basta! Basta! Basta! ... I am tempted to say to John McNeill. (Wasn't that the title of one of his open letters to the Vatican years ago?) I too found
him influencial and persuasive. I thought he was one of the real modern heroes in the Church. Many of us followed him along his road to what seemed like martyrdom. I remember his Easter retreat at the Abbey of Gethsemani ..... his anguish over his priesthood, and the Jesuit order, and all of that drama. As it turns out, all the while he was playing the victim, he was living merrily with a lover. I believe he revealed all of this in last autobiography, didn't he? It sounds like he never believed in anything like celibacy. And that is fine, as long as you put all of your cards on the table in the first place. He never did that. This is one writer who should be read from his most recent work backwards. Too many people read the carefully crafted earlier works, and fall for a poseur.

Anonymous said...

Fr. McNeil's writings on natural law and Romans 1 is a disgrace of ignorance. Even so, he cannot change the letter or the "spirit" of Romans 1, and the letter of Romans 1, as Wayne Dynes and any scholar of Greek will inform Catholics, is quite clear -- homophilia is the exemplary sin of idolatry! And it is! Catholics' ignorance of Holy Writ is astonishing -- especially, since the Church codified it (and Hebrew Writ).

It's no mystery why Fr. McNeil was not invited to partake of the New Jerome Biblical Commentary, the original edition published by Collegeville, MN. Scholars are not allowed to whine, bitch, and moan they are the victims of a misunderstanding; they must address the topics of Holy Writ head-on -- which even McNeil cannot do (some of his Jesuit brethren did far better in periodicals of scholarly research).

Since McNeil lacked that competence, his writings insist the pastoral epistles are "historically conditioned" (duh?) and that slavery, women, and same sex relations have a new, more engaging anthropology than Romans 1. Right? And the resurrection is all metaphorical, as the infancy narratives are all parallelism of Moses? (duh?) What next? The Rebellious Rabbi was not really an existent person? (duh?)

But the Church has same-sex relations (homophilia) in the vice of Saint Paul's idolatry, OR by escaping that wrench, violating the natural law, and either one, much less both, are why homoeroticism today, while widely practiced outside Jerusalem in Jesus' time, remains the emblematic sin of idolatry "worthy of death."

Maybe Catholic priests who could no longer tow that story line and left in mass circa 1970-90, save for the one Fresno holdover, tell a story larger and more powerful than the Victim narrative. One of my Jewish friends admires Catholic's Victim narratology, second only to rehearing the Nazi Holocaust every Shabbat, but why no Jews stood in opposition to it. They wanted to prove Hitler wrong?

Perhaps the homophiles can get together and rewrite the Bible? Nope, forget that, the Vulgate stands -- even pre-Judaism. Perhaps homophiles can get together and embrace David Hume's rejection of natural law in 1740? Nope, forget that, they need it, as one Jack Malebranche nails it on the head: Today's gays need to be victimized, and the Jews and Catholics have no sense of themselves unless viewed as victims! Pure potty torture!

I pretty much disagree with Jack on most issues, such as his "masculinity" project, but he is right about one thing: Gay men have no identity unless they see themselves as victims of a masculine, hierarchical Church of cross-dressers. (It's true.) And so beholden to the victim and the hood theology, they need to persevere as if they are the Church's newest martyrs (coming lately after 2000 years).

And maybe one day, the Church calendar will appoint a feast Michael and the Martyrs, who stood up against Rome, while bending to Natural Law, and should be emulated throughout Christendom as saints.

It will occur, I suspect, on the day after a gay man gives the invocation on Barack Obama's inauguration, whose van Dyke scares men with hair. Right after Rev. " goateed turd," " hairfaced hobbit cretin" completes his victimology.