Saturday, November 23, 2019

Walking Away

If someone cannot reciprocate your love, if someone cannot give you what you truly deserve, you have to understand that aching for them to do so before they are ready is a form of self destruction.

Your heart is a vast and tender thing, you cannot keep trying to shrink it into what someone else needs. You cannot keep pouring your love into a vessel that cannot contain it. You cannot keep pouring your love into a soul that has not opened their eyes to all that they are receiving. You cannot keep pouring your love into a heart that is closed off to it. It will only leave you empty. You have to walk away. You have to let this person grow on their own terms, because you can’t love someone into their potential. You can’t love someone into being ready. They have to do that on their own.

And I know how hard it is to walk away from someone you deeply care for. I know how hard it is to lay all of that love down. . . . But in walking away you will learn how to pour all of the love that you were giving to the wrong person, back into yourself. And you will learn how to pour it into all that you desire in life, you will learn how to pour it into your growth, into your art, into your hope. You will learn how to stand up for your feeling, how to stand up for its value.

And when you teach yourself that you deserve to be loved, without having to beg for that love, without having to chase that love down, you open yourself to the kind of beauty that chooses you just as freely as you choose it. You open yourself to the kind of people who see you and immediately know that you are a rare and beautiful thing. You open yourself to new beginnings, to a future that unfolds in ways that don’t hurt or break you down, but rather, build you up, and show you just how worthy you are of having your heart held.

– Bianca Sparacino
Excerpted from “You Cannot Love Someone Into Their Potential
Thought Catalog
November 22, 2019

See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
The Empty Beach
Wendy Matthews: Free, Like the Wind
In This In-Between Time
Adnan . . . with Sunset Reflections and Jet Trail
Adnan . . . Amidst Mississippi Reflections
The Gravity of Love
The Choice (and Risk) That Is Love
Love as Exploring Vulnerability
The Path Ahead

Related Off-site Link:
Let Go of the People Who Aren’t Ready to Love You – Brianna Wiest (Thought Catalog, December 30, 2019).

Image 1: Michael J. Bayly.
Image 2: A. Ahmed A.


brian gerard said...

so happy to see you posting this, Michael. What a thoughtful reflection full of truth.

armijok said...

Thank you very much for this post and for so many others! Following and reading you has helped me a lot to discern, to grow in my faith and to continue believing in love.

Michael J. Bayly said...

Thanks, Brian and Armijok.